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2023.06.07 13:22 climbingmountendo Agonizing pain when I first woke up from surgery? Calling me my dead name??

I'm in my late 20s and have Stage 4 Endometriosis with Adenomyosis because of healthcare neglect. I got diagnosed last year and they also didn't find out the extent until they cut me open because imaging doesn't pick up all the disease. They weren't able to complete the full procedure because the Endo Specialist needs a Gastro Specialist. I'll be able to get the rest of my uterus removal and excision done in a few months so I'll still have incredibly painful periods. Most of my experience makes sense to me besides the fact that I told the team multiple times Oxy doesn't work for me. I was in the post op room before they brought me to family and I was sobbing due to intolerable pain. Felt like I woke up in the middle of surgery. I told them this over and over again and they said because they gave me a high dose of Tylenol earlier that they couldn't give me Hydro yet. I spent an hour in agnozing pain not understanding why they gave me Oxy. They also were late checking me in and I was holding pee in for them from the start so I was already in pain. Furthermore they called me by my dead name instead of my preferred name almost the entire time. Apparently this is one of the top hospitals in the county. What gives? Are people stealing the good drugs? Should I ask for more Hydro just to get through my period and ovulation the next couple months? I know every place is different but please tell me your perspective and advise me if I should be concerned. Thanks for reading.
TLDR: I'm a little paranoid I'm being medically neglected again because I woke up in agonizing pain from surgery when they told me that wouldn't happen. I told them not to give me Oxy and they did anyway. They also kept calling me by my dead name when this is one of the top hospitals in the country or at least my area of the county. Not sure how concerned I should be. Please tell me your opinions.
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2023.06.07 13:22 redlightbandit7 Time to ban the Bible as well.

Time to ban the Bible as well.
Genesis 19:
34 The next day the older daughter said to the younger, “Last night I slept with my father. Let’s get him to drink wine again tonight, and you go in and sleep with him so we can preserve our family line through our father.” 35 So they got their father to drink wine that night also, and the younger daughter went in and slept with him. Again he was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up.
36 So both of Lot’s daughters became pregnant by their father. 37 The older daughter had a son, and she named him Moab[a]; he is the father of the Moabites of today. 38 The younger daughter also had a son, and she named him Ben-Ammi[b]; he is the father of the Ammonites[c] of today.
She has her comments locked as well. I’m so tired of these Bible thumping hypocrites.
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2023.06.07 12:31 hedwigflysagain Is this a scammer?

Is this a scammer?
This popped up on my feed. I am pretty sure it is a scam. No Actual information on the organization supposedly doing this. Just a photo and links. They are asking for peoples at home addresses just supposedly deliver groceries period.
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2023.06.07 12:27 ThrowAwayEnd03 Jjijjjjhhhjjjh

My brother was being an asshole over lunch yesterday. He was being an idiot and asking me when I was going to drive bec crazy. Youd think for a 40 year old man he'd be a little less childish. Honestly I dont think he ever liked me dating Bec. Dunno why. She was lovely. No regrets or trouble there. I loved our time together.
But what he said annoyed me. Mainly because now Im wondering if Mum was talking with him about Gabs. I feel like she wouldnt, but... im clearly a shit judge of things like that.
Anyway. Dunno what he was inferring. He's a dick any way. 😂
I wonder if Bec has been talking to my sister. She was doing thst when I was having a really hard time. I do miss her. But I dont want to ask my sister in case they are talking and it somehow disrupts her moving on by my sister saying im asking about her or something. I dunno. Sort of weird still. Different from before. Still though, it's for the best. Pretty sure she would murder me with love if I told her I lied and hadnt just gone on a holiday for several months. Which fair enough. She was stressed and worried. But I did technically tell her. Anddddd i didnt have to tell anyone. And it wad also pretty sudden decision due to some brash actions on my part and I needed help. And I dont want to upset anyone. It was bad enough when people rang my mum cause they thought I was dead. And bad enough when someone made an obituary just before tbh that showed up everytime my name and family members names were googled. You know what was fucked about that? I had to supply a birth certificate and ID to prove i was the person it was made about. They still couldnt give me any info on who made it either. Like why didnt they require a death certificate in the first place. Being able to make a random obituary for anyone is cooked.
Anyway. Blehhhh. He probably meant nothing. Im just hypersensitive atm. Hes always trying to get a rise out of me. Bec would never be like Jess. Completely different personalities and bec doesnt have a bunch of psychiatric disorders. Shes just a little too handsy. 😂 her friends liked to make jokes with me in the passive role while bec was in the dominant role. Fair play though. Shes a very strong and confident woman and i loved her leading she was great at it. Miss her. Love her.
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2023.06.07 12:15 Beaujei Recommendations on local realtors and lenders.

It’s my fiancé and I’s first time buying a home and we are looking to buy a manufactured home to start. Do you have an recommendations on local realtors and lenders in the Orange/Seminole county areas?
Any advice would be great as well!
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2023.06.07 11:45 No_Dig1868 Top 10 Doctors Around The World

Health is our greatest treasure and with incredible specialists. We all know that there is a better chance for a healthier population.
The government has established a massive number of health institutes or health caring centers in their countries so that people should not compromise when it comes to health.
Also Read: Top 10 Countries That Produce the Most Doctors
List Of Top 10 Doctors Around The World
Here is a list of the 10 best doctors in the world:
  1. Dr. William A. Abdu, M.D, M.S.
Dr. Abdu is an Associate Professor of Orthopedics and of The Dartmouth Institute Medical Director at Dartmouth-Hitchcock Medical Center
Dr. Abdu got his accreditation in 1985 from Tufts University. He is a pioneer in the study and treatment of spine-related conditions. He hones surgery of the Spine, including Cervical, Thoracic and Lumbar Disorders, Disk Herniation, Spinal Stenosis, Spondylolisthesis, Spondylotic Myelopathy, Spinal Cord Injury, and Spine Trauma. Also, he had discovered many new techniques for spine treatment.
  1. Dr. Myles. B. Abbott, M.D.
Dr. Myles is also one of the best-known doctors of Pediatricians in the world. He graduated from the University of Miami Leonard M Miller School of Medicine in 1972. He treats the problems of growth and child development.
Dr. Myles currently practices at East Bay Pediatric & Medical Group and is affiliated with Alta Bates Summit Medical Center Alta Bates Campus and Children’s Hospital & Research Center Oakland.
  1. Dr. Fouad. M. Abbas, M.D.
Dr. Abbas is a well-known Gynecologist/Oncologist. His specialization field is Oncologist of Obstetrician and Gynecology. He is also considered to be one of the best doctors of Oncology in the world. The term Oncology is the study of cancer.
Dr. Abbas graduated from the University of Maryland School of Medicine in 1986. Currently, he is affiliated with Medstar Harbor Hospital and Sinai Hospital Of Baltimore.
  1. Dr. Khalid Abbed, M.D.
Dr. Khalid is a famous doctor of Neuro. He is an Associate Professor and Chief of the Spine Section in the Department of Neurosurgery. His area of clinical interest is in the treatment of spinal disorders.
Dr. Khalid obtained his bachelor’s degree in Biological Sciences from the University of Illinois in Champaign-Urbana in 1993. He continued his education in the same University and received his Doctor of Medicine degree with Honors in 1999. Currently, he is working at Yale as a Director of the Spine Surgery Department. Many consider him the best doctor in the world.
  1. Dr. Naresh Trehan
Dr. Naresh is a famous Indian cardiovascular and cardiothoracic surgeon. He was born on August 12, 1946, in Delhi, India. He obtained a medical degree from King George’s Medical College in Lucknow.
Dr. Naresh was also the founder, executive director, and chief cardiovascular surgeon of Escorts Heart Institute and Research Center (EHIRC), New Delhi, India. At present, he is serving as a Chairman and Managing Director and Chief Cardiac Surgeon of MedantaTM-The Medicity, one of the largest multi-specialty hospitals at Gurgaon, Haryana.
  1. Dr. Arthur Reese Abright, M.D.
Dr. Reese is also one of the best doctors of Psychiatry. She treats the problems of depressions and mind-related problems.
Dr. Reese got her accreditation from The University of Texas Southwestern Medical School. She is also an expert on mood disorders and anxiety. Currently, she is working as a Professor of Psychiatry at Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai. She is also affiliated with Mount Sinai Services Elmhurst Hospital Center and New York Medical College at present.
  1. Dr. Corrie T.M Anderson, M.D.
Dr. Anderson is also one of the best doctors in Pediatric Anesthesiologist around the world. He received his A.B. with Honors in Biochemistry from Harvard University and Doctor of Medicine (M.D) from Stanford University School of Medicine in 1982. He can be truly crowned as “world best doctor”.
In 2001, Dr. Anderson became the director of the program for Pediatric Pain Medicine in the Department of Anesthesiology at Seattle Children’s Hospital. He is also a professor of anesthesiology and associate professor of pediatrics at the University of Washington School of Medicine.
  1. Dr. Mark. F. Aaron, M.D.
Dr. Aaron is also one of the best doctors in cardiologists. His specialization is Cardiovascular Disease. The term Cardiology is related to the heart and its problems.
Dr. Aaron got his accreditation from the Duke University School of Medicine in 1992. Currently, he is affiliated with River Park Hospital, Saint Thomas West Hospital, and Henry County Medical Center.
  1. Dr. Sudhansu Bhattacharyya, MBBS, MS, MCH
Dr. Sudhansu is also one of the best Indian Cardiovascular Surgeons. He obtained MBBS and M.S. General Surgery from Ahmedabad. He had invented, designed, and patented a few surgical instruments, the most important ones being Atrial Retractor for Mitral Valve Replacement and Internal Mammary Artery Retractor for taking down bilateral Internal Mammary Arteries.
Before entering into the practice world, Dr. Sudhansu served as a full-time Professor for Cardiothoracic surgery at Sheth G.S. Medical College & K.E.M. Hospital. At present, he is affiliated with Bombay Hospital And Medical Research Center, Breach Candy Hospital, Mumbai, and Lilavati Hospital & Research Center, Mumbai.
10. Dr.Mona.M.Abaza, M.D.
Dr. Abaza is a specialized doctor in ENT Otolaryngologist, Adenoidectomy, esophagoscopy, Nasal airway surgery, and tracheostomy. She is a world-famous ENT Doctor and treats problems of the ear, head, nose, throat, and neck.
Dr. Abaza graduated from the Medical College of Pennsylvania in 1991. She is affiliated with Children’s Hospital Colorado At Memorial Hospital Central and the University Of Colorado Hospital.
Conclusion
Since the dawn of time, the profession of a doctor is one of the most appreciated jobs in the world. Being a doctor implies a great responsibility, as almost every day the nature of somebody’s life (or the life itself) is in their hands. Since the medical field is a vast and ever-expanding field, there is no direct answer to who is the best doctor in the world. Doctors are specialized and trained in different field
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2023.06.07 10:31 warp-factor Match Thread: T20 Blast & Charlotte Edwards Cup - 7th June

2023 T20 Blast & Charlotte Edwards Cup
ECB Match Centre - T20 Blast - Charlotte Edwards Cup - Central Repository of Scorecards and clips of every boundary and wicket.
Full coverage of every ball of County Cricket and selected Women's Regional Matches on BBC Local Radio - T20 Blast - Charlotte Edwards Cup
T20 Matches in the Blast and Charlotte Edwards Cup start at different times which are listed against them below.
Where available, YouTube live streams are linked against each match below. These can also be found on the county and ECB websites. There's no county youtube stream of Kent/Essex as it's on Sky but it is also on Sky's YouTube channel (Geo-locked to UK/Ireland).
BBC Local Radio coverage and County YouTube streams should be accessible worldwide.
Today is the final group games of the Charlotte Edwards Cup. The Blaze have already qualified directly for the final. Vipers and Diamonds are in pole position for the semi final places but Thunder could surplant Diamonds if they beat them by a significant enough margin for a bonus point. Storm have a mathematical chance of surplanting the Vipers if the Vipers loose heavily to Sunrisers and Storm beat The Blaze heavily.
Double Headers
AT STANLEY PARK - Weather Forecast
11:30 - Thunder vs Northern Diamonds - YouTube - Scorecard
17:00 - Lancashire vs Worcestershire - YouTube - Scorecard
AT THE ST LAWRENCE GROUND - Weather Forecast
14:00 - South East Stars vs Central Sparks - YouTube - Scorecard
18:30 - Kent vs Essex - On Sky Sports and Sky YouTube (Geo-locked to UK/Ire) - Scorecard
AT SOPHIA GARDENS - Weather Forecast
14:30 - Western Storm vs The Blaze - YouTube- Scorecard
18:30 - Glamorgan vs Surrey - YouTube - Scorecard
Other T20 Blast Matches
18:30 - Warwickshire vs Derbyshire at Edgbaston - YouTube - Weather Forecast - Scorecard
19:00 - Hampshire vs Somerset at The Rose Bowl - YouTube - Weather Forecast - Scorecard
Other Charlotte Edwards Cup Matches
19:00 - Southern Vipers vs Sunrisers at Hove - YouTube - Weather Forecast - Scorecard
T20 Blast Standings before today:
North Group
Pos Team Played Won Lost Tied N/R Net RR Points
1 Worcestershire 5 4 1 0 0 +1.027 8
2 Warwickshire 6 4 2 0 0 +0.867 8
3 Durham 6 4 2 0 0 +0.787 8
4 Yorkshire 7 4 3 0 0 +0.046 8
5 Nottinghamshire 7 4 3 0 0 -0.139 8
6 Lancashire 7 3 4 0 0 +0.125 6
7 Northamptonshire 7 3 4 0 0 -0.536 6
8 Derbyshire 6 2 4 0 0 -0.509 4
9 Leicestershire 7 1 6 0 0 -1.198 2
South Group
Pos Team Played Won Lost Tied N/R Net RR Points
1 Somerset 6 6 0 0 0 +2.059 12
2 Surrey 6 4 2 0 0 +0.953 8
3 Hampshire 6 4 2 0 0 +0.807 8
4 Glamorgan 5 4 1 0 0 +0.524 8
5 Gloucestershire 6 3 3 0 0 -0.387 6
6 Essex 5 3 2 0 0 -0.536 6
7 Kent 5 1 4 0 0 -0.255 2
8 Sussex 6 1 5 0 0 -1.323 2
9 Middlesex 7 0 7 0 0 -1.539 0
Points: Teams receive 2 points for a win. 1 point for a Tie or No Result. Each team plays 7 of the 8 other teams in their group and 7 away. Top 4 in each group qualify for the Quarter Finals. Quarter Final winners qualify for Finals Day.
Charlotte Edwards Cup Standings before today:
Pos Team Played Won Lost Tied N/R Net RR Points
1 The Blaze 6 6 0 0 0 +1.956 28
2 Southern Vipers 6 4 2 0 0 +0.769 17
3 Northern Diamonds 6 4 2 0 0 +0.162 17
4 Thunder 6 3 3 0 0 +0.064 13
5 Western Storm 6 3 3 0 0 -0.488 12
6 South East Stars 6 2 4 0 0 -0.162 8
7 Central Sparks 6 2 4 0 0 -0.600 8
8 Sunrisers 6 0 6 0 0 -1.653 0
Points: Teams receive 4 points for a win. A bonus point for a win with a run rate of 1.25x that of the opposition. 2 points for a Tie or No Result. Teams play each other team once, home or away. The top three teams advance to Finals Day. The top team advances straight to the Final, whilst the other two teams play off in a semi-final.
If you've got a team in The Cricket Draft T20 Blast fantasy game, you can join the cricket league here
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2023.06.07 10:23 Medical-Gain7151 Do I diverge my culture, or give my homie the footstool his empire back? (War dec. is 9k prestige)

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2023.06.07 10:06 G1Radiobot Promare Showing at the Frida Cinema in Orange County

To any Studio Trigger fans here in Orange County, California, The Frida Cinema, a local movie theater, is going to be showing Promare at 7:30 tonight, June 7th, and tomorrow, June 8th. If you've already seen it, you already know that it's a great movie, and you should take the chance to see in a theater again or for the first time. If you haven't seen it...
Promare is a consistently entertaining movie about a special unit of fire fighters who fight flame wielding psychics using mecha and freeze guns. The visuals wonderfully blend 2D and 3D animation in a way that truly incorporates the CG into the art style, rather than just relying on it as a crutch or shortcut. The soundtrack by Sawano (who probably needs no introduction) is memorable, beautiful, and hard hitting. Lastly, it contains a number of references to Gainax works, particularly Gurren Lagann.
It'd be wonderful if we could get a packed house for this movie, as this is an excellent movie to watch with an audience that's into it. Thanks and have a nice night.
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2023.06.07 10:05 youbetterworkb 6 Powersets

Choose 2

  1. Moving: Teleportation up to 5,000 miles safely, run at 500 mph, fly at 1,000 mph. Choose if you want wings or winged feet, can be biological like bird wings or a techno-suit and it can be retractable, removable, or fold away. You gain olympic level agility and endurance for the rest of your life. You get a one time body change within human limits and you can have this happen gradually over a few months if desired.
  2. Fairies: You gain access to a social media website used only by fey and their friends. You can travel to fey lands by magic spells (taught by cats) or by walking through mushrooms (choose only one). You find a magic cookbook under your bed that teaches the ability to cook foods that make people skinnier, smaller, fatter, or taller. You can track things lost by the fey.
  3. Long Distance Relationship: A semi-biological spaceship befriends you from the big dipper, it requires a pilot and the pilot has just died. The ship must consume an earth's worth of mass each year in metals to stay alive. It can travel 100,000 light years per day without time dilation, if well fed. There is enough room for 20 passengers and the ship can create drones with shields and probes with scanning bio-technology. The ship can create a bio-avatar of itself to better communicate with you. The med-bay can cure many current earth diseases and keep a human highly functional until at least 110 years old.
  4. Were-Creatures: You are turned by the were-creature of your choice (such as were-lion or were-beavers) They have a private clubhouse and get together for monthly bonding experiences. You can shapeshift into a creature of that type, with the look of your choice. You can turn into a half-creature person who has access to were-creature magic. Spells: turn somebody (requires 2 casters), teleport to the clubhouse (usually hundreds of years old and containing a secret library), heal completely (only after an honorable battle), speak with were-ancestors (very deep and serious).
  5. Magic Hunter: There are 99 special magic items hidden throughout a vast fantasy medieval multiverse. An eccentric billionaire hires you to find them using his books full of magic portals. You are expected to find these 99 things and use his library/laboratory to ensure they are safe for him. You are given a 10 million dollar per year budget, which you will need to exchange into gold or gems to travel to fantasy worlds to hire help and traveling supplies. You can keep anything you find except the 99 special items. (everything in these worlds works here)
  6. Enchanting: You gain the ability to place one copy of any language, knowledge, skill, or magic ability you have into a piece of jewelry. Any person you tell about this will believe you, but only if you tell them. This works with your other choice, but you can still only make one copy per thing.
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2023.06.07 09:49 DeliciousDish9089 stripclub,

Okay so tonight I did not make the wisest decision and I really feel bad about myself. My soon-to-be ex and I had a discussion on the phone today in text and he threw it in my face of my past of being a stripper and he quoted his ex-wife on something that she said, "you can't turn a stripper into a housewife. " And I don't know why that bothered me so bad knowing who it came from, but it really did in this evening he drove off and I didn't really want to leave our discussion ending in the way that it did we do have a child together and I want to try to keep the peace as much as possible., so i call him, no answer. So anyway I drove into town after he left thinking maybe I would see him, I'm not really sure what I was expecting to see but I just had this odd feeling that something was up because it was just so weird how he threw up all this stuff randomly as he did. Well off of a dumb whim of mine I decided that I was going to drive into Memphis which is about an hour drive from my home and since he said something about my past as a stripper I had the feeling he was going to go check it out since he says he's never been to one of those clubs before. So I wasn't sure which one he went to I went by the first one and I didn't see anything that he drove but then I went to the second one and there it was his big black truck I drove behind it and I saw that it had our County tags and I decided to park and I thought about it for a moment and after thinking about it I had decided I'm going to go in. Now going through a divorce is probably isn't the smartest but I knew I was not going to act ignorant it's just like I needed to see. You see he's been telling me this whole time during our Separation on how he loves only me he only cares only to see me he doesn't want anybody else and he's also made the statement numerous amount of times that he will never take off his wedding ring until we're divorced. Well the Curiosity got the best of me so I walked into this strip club and it wasn't very busy but as I go in there I look over and there he is and I pretty much get almost 8 ft to him before he really realizes it's me and all I could do was ask him really. Like I said I was not screaming or yelling or acting crazy but merely just looking him in his face and just wanting to know why he continues to lie to me about things even though we are separated and he can do as he wants it's just the fact that he's lying and trying to love bomb me all the time. Well I sat down next to him and I pointed out that I noticed that he wasn't wearing a ring and I just told him that I couldn't believe that he continued to lie to me. I got up and he asked me where I was going and I told him I was leaving, he really didn't act all too concerned that I had caught him there. But even though this might not been a smart move on my behalf going through a divorce might look bad on me. It actually helped me mentally, cuz I actually saw him for who he really is. I know now 100% without a doubt that he would never change no matter what. As we each left the club in our two separate vehicles he went one way and I went another and at some point he texted me and I ended up calling him it's much easier for me to talk than it is to text while driving, and as time was going on in this conversation he was starting to become clear that he pulled out of the parking lot to only Circle back to go back to make me think that he left. He kept saying things to me like where are you at now? Well are you sure I left? So I'm not really sure 100% if he ended up circling around and intending on going back, I had actually turned around at one point to see if he went back but after thinking about it for a while I decided it probably better just for me to go home and so I did. During the drive home he ended up calling me and we talked on the phone for a little bit he wanted to tell me to watch out for deer. During our conversation at some points he also had mentioned several times about me having a GPS on them, he thinks that I knew where he was like on got ways of telling where he's at. No matter how many times I tell him that I don't have anything like that on him he just doesn't believe me. It upsets me that he doesn't believe me, and I'm always trying to validate myself, I have got to quit doing that. How do you overcome the need to validate yourself? How do you overcome the need of worrying about what they're doing when you're not around knowing you don't want to be with themno more? I know I don't want to be with him anymore, but the idea of him and someone else I don't know if it hurts my feelings, or if I might be jealous, or what exactly it is.
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2023.06.07 09:48 Sending-Love Am I working with toxic co-workers or AITA?

So I've worked at a hospital as a per diem physical therapist for almost four years now. When I got hired my manager was very clear that if I added availability for a shift I would get that shift unless the census was low. I can basically work as much as I want and create my own schedule. I'm unable to work full time because I have another job working for my family business. My mom owns the business and my siblings and I help run it, it has to do with care for the elderly. I started working for the family business about four years ago after I graduated physical therapy school. I make the least out of my 3 other older siblings who have all worked there longer and have more job responsibilities.
This post is about the hospital job. I noticed the dynamic was weird in the department from the very beginning, it can be competitive, clique and there is a lot of shit talking. I basically tried to stay out of it and do a good job at work. I always felt on the outs but was able to make a few friends...
However I recently got promoted to a lead position... On days I'm scheduled as a lead I come in an hour early to make the schedule and leave an hour early. I basically manage all calls coming in to the physical therapy department and I get paid 10% more. There were some full time people who were unhappy I got this opportunity and they didn't. However, those people were mostly either hired after me (lower seniority) or are physical therapy assistants (work under physical therapists).
I noticed a big shift in most of my relationships, the few friends I made faded away. The dynamic in the department became worse shortly after I was promoted when another per diem team member pointed out to the union that per diem workers get to choose the major and minor holidays they work every year according to our contract... Our manager had been breaking this rule for years unbeknownst to m. This employee had apparently read through the contract and brought it up to the union. Now all the full time people hate the per diem staff because they get to choose their holidays, even though I had nothing to do with this. They have said it's not fair we get to make our own schedule, they think we get paid too much, they don't think we should get choice of holidays to work and they don't think we should get to be in lead positions. However, this is standard practice for per diem staff in hospitals (I'm not sure about the lead part, but I know everything else is). My sister works as a per diem nurse at a hospital and said high pay, making your own schedule and choosing holidays are normal since you don't get benefits and most per diems have other jobs which is why the schedules are flexible.
Recently I've been having people make really weird comments towards me. This one girl asked why I work here if I work for my family business. I asked her what she meant and she said don't you own the business and make a lot of money? Without going into it I said no, I actually make more money at the hospital which is the truth and she was very surprised. I'm always pretty hush hush about my family business, I've told people what it is but not the name of it or where it's located. Then she asked what my husband does and I said he's a programmer and she went on to talk about how that job makes so much which is not true... He makes decent money, but $29/hour is not a crazy amount of money for Southern California. I just replied vaguely saying he makes okay money and left. She is also a per diem therapist with lower seniority than me. I have a feeling she would like more shifts, but we're scheduled according to seniority and she's brand new.
Another weird comment... Another girl who I like got really weird when I told her my husband and I were thinking about putting an offer on a house. I was excited and was making conversation which we usually do. She asked how much it was and I said $750,000 because that's the truth and there's no point in lying as housing sales are public record. She could not believe I could afford that and asked me, "How can you possibly afford that"... I changed the subject... She's not married, so maybe she doesn't understand joint income. She also lives in an underpopulated desert area in a different county where the cost of living is less. I live in Los Angeles County near my family and other job and commute to work. Right now in 2023 in Los Angeles county $750,000 for a 3 bedroom 2 bath in a safe neighborhood is average or below average actually according to my google search.
My manager who I loved just left, and one of the full time therapists who doesn't seem to like per diem therapists was hired as manager. I'm worried about the future, but we are bound by a union contract so there aren't a lot of changes that can be made. I heard the new manager got mad about the holiday thing and doesn't want per diems to be lead therapists anymore as a result which is totally unrelated and feels retaliatory. I've noticed more than 50% of the lead therapists are per diem. They all do a great job, maintain a professional attitude and stay out if the drama and cliques. It's a rumor though so we'll see.
I'm not sure what I'm even asking... Feeling isolated and constantly judged, it's been getting to me and this is the first time I've considered leaving this job even though my job pays very well, is flexible, I'm in a lead position and have earned seniority. Does this sound toxic to you guys? Am I missing something?
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2023.06.07 09:31 McGlone_Games 'In Vision' Commentary Notes - The Most Hated Family in America

'In Vision' Commentary Notes - The Most Hated Family in America
It only took 10,000 words to get here, but I finally got through all the 'In Vision' commentaries from 'The Strange and the Dangerous' DVD box-set. And we're ending with a bang that would split Hell wide open even more than Princess Diana, with the Phelps family of the Westboro Baptist Church, aka 'The Most Hated Family in America'.


\"BECAUSE, YOU ARE... A REBELLIOUS... BRAT!!\"


For this one Louis is joined by Peter Tatchell, a human rights campaigner who specialises in LGBT issues, and someone who has personally been told by Shirley Phelps that he is going to burn in Hell.

Cast of bigots: Fred (patriarch of the Phelps family and leader of the church), Shirley (one of Fred's daughters), Jael (one of Fred's granddaughters), Steve (former documentarian who married into the family)

  • Louis: "Would they be so happy, if they weren't so hateful?"
  • Louis first learned of the Phelps family in 1995, when one of his colleagues on Michael Moore's 'TV Nation' show produced a segment on them
  • As someone he knew had already covered them, Louis "resisted" using them as a subject for Weird Weekends, and waited until enough time had passed for him to make a follow-up documentary
  • Peter, who is openly gay, had been raised in a Baptist church that, unsurprising, was nothing like the Westboro Baptist Church
  • There is a discussion of how homosexuality is "the absolute, defining point of their faith", along with criticism of the various ways the church attempts to justify it
  • The family's excuse for wearing clothes made of "mixed fibres" was that there is a distinction between "ceremonial law" and "moral law"
  • The family's excuse for one of Shirley's sons having a goatee (Leviticus states that trimming your beard is forbidden) was also to do with "ceremonial" vs. "moral" law, although Shirley was "shaken for a second" when Louis brought it up
  • The family's excuse for why some men in the family were not circumcised was that Paul "released people from having to follow Jewish law"
  • Louis was impressed by how many in the family had memorised such a wide repertoire of Bible verses and quotes, which he credits to them mostly being lawyers
  • Peter notes that "SHUT UP!" is not "a very Christian response"
  • If you look closely at the 'In Vision' commentary, Louis is mouthing the words yelled by the moustachioed man who drives past and swears at the family (he then repeats what the man said to Peter)
  • Louis thinks that the man was going to say the family could only get away with what they were doing because they were protected by their right to free speech (remember that for later...), but he drove away before he could finish
  • Of Shirley's "10 or 11" siblings, Louis says 9 of them were lawyers and they had a "legalistic" way of looking at the Bible
  • They both think the Phelps' "compound" looks like it would be a nice place to live
  • Louis was familiar with how people in cults can have a "dazed" or "damaged" look to them, but thought the female children seemed "healthy and outgoing" and "in a weird way, well-adjusted, other than their moral outlook"
  • Peter had interviewed Shirley and compares it to "talking to a wall [...] she just carried on regardless"
  • Louis states that a gay man visiting the Phelps' would not be "like a black man visiting the Ku Klux Klan [...] they would be reasonably welcoming, as weird as that may sound" (Peter looks ever-so-slightly sceptical)
  • Louis implies that the family have an odd sense of equality, as they simply view everyone outside the family as Hell-bound sinners
  • Shirley had told Peter that he was going to burn in Hell "in a very nice way"
  • There is a discussion of how much weird stuff there is in the Bible, and how modern churches pick-and-choose what they want from it
  • The crew made 3 trips, each lasting "a week, or slightly less", and they spent time with Jael on the second trip
  • Louis says they tried to show the "human side" to the church members, with Jael being the "easiest to relate to" because of how there was some "turmoil there" (she is a nurse who was raised to believe that all her patients deserve to die and will burn eternally in Hell)
  • Peter compliments the family's graphic design skills, "just a pity about the message"
  • They both look amused by the idea that Princess Diana's death "split Hell wide open"
  • Louis "really enjoyed" making the program and he was "relaxed" about arguing with Steve, as he knew he didn't have to worry about losing access to the family, because "they didn't really care what you threw at them"
  • Louis: "They expected you to take issue with everything, and get into barneys and ding-dongs"
  • The family had been "very involved in Democratic politics", though Louis suspects this may partly be because the Republican party was supported by other Christian groups that the family hated
  • In his younger days, Fred had received an award from the NAACP (National Association for the Advancement of Coloured People) for his legal work during the civil rights movement
  • Peter mocks Fred for using "Armenian" as an insult, before Louis corrects him to say that Fred is saying "Arminian" ("it's a theological... thing")
  • Louis notes that Fred immediately disliked him and was "quite grumpy"
  • At the time of recording the commentary, the family had been successfully sued for millions of dollars, after being found guilty of their picketing "causing mental anguish and distress" and Louis says "technically, they may be bankrupt"
  • Louis: "Are they still active, do we know?"
  • [What happened was that Synder vs. Phelps initially resulted in the family being ordered to pay $5 million, but the judgement was later reversed (with that reversal being upheld by the US Supreme Court) when another court determined that Fred Phelps was protected by his right to free speech]
  • The family spent "tens, if not hundreds, of thousands of dollars" each year to fly around the country and picket funerals
  • The family makes "a reasonably good living" through their legal practice in Topeka, Kansas
  • No-one from the church will represent you as a lawyer for your first divorce, but they don't have a problem with representing you for any subsequent divorce ("at that point, it became meaningless")
  • Louis mentions how Shirley's family were the happiest and "her daughters seemed very self-assured", likely because they were "so close to the power" (Jael was not one of Shirley's daughters)
  • Some of Shirley's brothers had wives who had been "excluded" from the church (they could live on the property, but not socialise with anyone), because of their "transgressions"
  • Peter does not agree with taking children to any kind of protests where they do not understand what is being protested
  • Being a member of the family essentially meant that you were forced to take part in pickets ("emotional blackmail", as Peter calls it)
  • Peter on Shirley: "She loves the fact the world hates them."
  • Louis: "It makes them think they've got something important to say."
  • Louis mentions that they had followed and filmed interviews with the male children of the family, but none of it was included in the episode, because they simply weren't as "lively and interesting" as the female children
  • When Peter asks, Louis confirms that the male children had exactly the same attitudes and opinions as the other family members
  • The family's excuse for watching British TV shows like 'Ali G' and 'Trigger Happy TV' was that they could "find it amusing", while still thinking everyone involved in the production was going to Hell
  • Louis: "It's not what goes into the vessel, it's... something-something, some line about how, basically, you can watch whatever TV you like."
  • Peter notes how the family are sex-obsessed when it comes to the physical act ("to the point of, it's not really normal or healthy"), but never acknowledge the emotions associated with it
  • Shirley's first child had been born out of wedlock with a man she did not go on to marry (surprisingly, the conversation Louis had with her about this "wasn't particularly interesting")
  • Louis notes that Shirley and her siblings had a "complex relationship" with Fred, and claims that they had previously worked through feelings of "resentment and rebellion against him"
  • They both (correctly) predict that Shirley might be "running the show" now, but she will have a problem becoming Fred's successor, because strictly adhering to the Bible means that women cannot preach in church, so she could not formally be put in charge
  • Peter: "So they're misogynistic, as well as homophobic?"
  • Peter points out how the women have their heads covered during the church service, as it says to do in the Old Testament
  • Fred, literally, lived above the church, in living quarters with his wife
  • Louis believes that Fred had tailored his sermon to target Louis (or a UK audience in general), as he had given it a "transatlantic flavour"
  • The Bible contains "a recipe for bread that includes human excrement" ("Google it", Louis says)
  • Peter: "I'll leave that to them, thank you."
  • Personal Note: Did you really think I wouldn't Google it?
  • Peter: "Gay men are sex-obsessed, for heaven's sake, but these people are even worse!"
  • Louis (with a big grin on his face) gets Peter to explain what "scat" is
  • Louis is still unsure about how serious the family was when they talked about things like gay men drinking "feaccuccinos" (coffee made with faeces)
  • Louis doesn't do much with the little time he has to speak to Fred, because he was expecting to have a sit-down interview that never happened
  • Louis explains that the church's focus on homosexuals began in the late 1980s, when a local park was being used by gay men for sexual encounters and the council would not act against it
  • Louis notes that you can hear his voice begin to crack when he reads the dead soldier's obituary, because "sometimes when I'm tired, I get more emotional", and he genuinely was starting to cry
  • The family were fully aware that picketing the funerals of, for example, miners who died after being trapped underground would get them more attention than simply protesting against politicians
  • Louis mentions how the family had been stopped from picketing the funerals of some very young children who had been shot by a "madman", after a local DJ offered them an hour of airtime as an alternative
  • The family's excuse for being so nice to each other, yet awful to everyone else, was that they reserved their "Christian virtues" for fellow members of the church
  • The family's excuse for constantly judging people was that "thou shalt not judge" didn't mean you can never judge, and the Bible makes judgements that they are expected to follow (Louis grudgingly admits that they do have a point with that one)
  • There is an interesting discussion after Peter challenges Louis on why a small "sect" that has almost no real influence deserves to be the subject of a documentary, with Louis essentially saying that an otherwise intelligent family group following such an extreme interpretation of a religious text makes them significant
  • There is a far less interesting discussion when Louis asks Peter, an atheist, how a gay man may struggle to be Christian
  • Peter points out Jael's prolonged sigh during her conversation with Louis in the car (neither of them predict that she will end up married to a postman from Bradford)
  • Louis: "They create the animosity that then makes them feel as though they're right."
  • They both laugh at Jael's whiny "What did we do to them?!"
  • Louis notes how the family would "change the meanings of words" (they weren't "picketing", they were "preaching")
  • Louis: "I think they were quite pleased with the documentary. [...] They got a lot of hits on their website."
  • Peter: "I think a lot of hits on the website doesn't necessarily mean to say a lot of people were supporting them."

And that's the end of the commentaries! Thank you to everyone who's been following along and reading these. A fish with a rude word in its name asked me to recap 'Louis and the Nazis' (now, there's something you can only say on reddit), but after that I'll take a break from spamming the subreddit with my waffling.

And if you haven't read my other 'In Vision' commentary recaps, then here are the links to them:
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2023.06.07 09:13 TheQuarantinian SCO-NV to consider whether stalking is a protected first amendment activity

Reno, NV mayor Hillary Schieve took her car in for service and the mechanic alerted her that somebody had attached a GPS tracking device to her car. After an investigation it was alleged that it had been placed by private investigator David McNeely, who was working on behalf of an unidentified client. It later came to light that a second car, belonging to Ex-Washoe County Commissioner Vaugn Hartung also had a GPS tracker, and he joined the suit as well.
Schieve asked the judge to order the PI to reveal the name of his client, which the PI is refusing to do citing client/PI privilege. A judge did indeed order the name of the client to be released, and the order has been appealed to the state's supreme court.
John Doe's lawyers have argued that the First Amendment grants the right to anonymously investigate public officials.
"Anonymous pamphlets leaflets, brochures and even books have played an important role in the progress of mankind. Persecuted groups and sects from time to time throughout history have been able to criticize oppressive practices and laws either anonymously or not at all. ... Even the Federalist Papers, written in favor of the adoption of our Constitution, were published under fictitious names." - Lawyers Alina Shell and Jeffrey Barr, Las Vegas, representing John Doe.
According to Doe's lawyers, if he wasn't guaranteed anonymity, their client never would have paid somebody to attach GPS trackers to the cars of elected officials so he could stalk them.
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2023.06.07 09:07 H4km4N MISSING Anthony R. Catalano 3/25/2009

MISSING Anthony R. Catalano 3/25/2009
NICKNAME: Tony
SEX: Male
RACE: White
HEIGHT: 70"
WEIGHT: 185 lbs
Brown hair, brown eyes, very muscular with 2 inch scar on the back of his neck. Anthony was last seen at his residence on the 8700 Block of West Bryn Mawr Avenue in Chicago Illinois, wearing his 3/4 length black pea coat.
Contact Chicago Police Department Detective Mario Gonzales (312) 745 - 6065
Case #: HR254515
NamUs MP #: 11837
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2023.06.07 09:05 TreeBeard_47 My Charges and probation somehow disappeared??😂

So long story short.. I got a DUI and Felony possession charge in October of last year. They sent my “substances” that were on my person to the lab and said I would hear from them in a month or 2 when lab testing was done to dictate what I would be charged with (it’s was some scale btw❄️) but in the midst of that I went to court for the DUI. Had a public defender for the DUI and it got continued twice and the third time was told I had to do the 3 day hotel stay, 3 days in county, and pay my fines. I showed up to the scheduled hotel program and I wasn’t on the list. And then went to turn myself in to do my 3 days in jail and they said I wasn’t on the list for that either. I called the courts and they say they have no record of me ever being charged with anything whatsoever. I tried to report to my PO and they denied me because I wasn’t on his list of probationers. My lawyer I was going to use for the “possession” charge says he’s never heard of a pending drug charge either and he’s very reputable with these people so basically WTF IS GOING ON?😂 has anybody else encountered a situation like this?
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2023.06.07 08:51 BudWatcher BudWatcher 2.0 Updates

Hi everyone, hope you are doing well. I wanted to take a minute to share a few product updates on the latest version, both android and iOS. Let me know if you have any questions. Happy to answer them here.
Tue Jun 6
Done:- Lab Data: You can now upload photos of terp and cannabinoid labels from your current stash so BudWatcher can validate and then make this real-time batch information available to everyone in the app. Check the bottom, "Lab Data" area to contribute your labels.
- Better (not good enough) text search experience. The search is certainly better now but it still needs work. This is a big focus for this week.
- BudWatcher PRO can now be purchased. Thank you for your support! Pro subscriptions keep the lights on.
- 2 new filter options, "County" and "Region" have been added.
Current:- Finishing: Addition of new terp & cannabinoid filter options- Next: Fixing a bug that has a few of the category images thrown off- Last: Adding out of stock items to the search so if you search for something that's now out of stock, you can easily tell when it happened and set alerts for when its comes back.
Next Week:The return of in stock alerts plus new price change alerts! For pro plan members only but DM me if you need a longer trial.
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2023.06.07 08:50 Original_Score Small town council update: new post in Facebook groups shows the drama caused by the flood of attention ahead of the meeting

Small town council update: new post in Facebook groups shows the drama caused by the flood of attention ahead of the meeting
Seems like our actions in protest to the anti lqbtq+ sentiment did get the attention of the town council, ultimately leading to the pastor calling for support for the proposed drag ban having to apologize to the members of the town council for causing a potential disturbance of the meeting. Turns out what they were trying to do was out of the scope of the town council and they didn’t act in a rational way (shocker) by not talking to the whole council. This is a new Facebook post in a Christian group quoting an email from that pastor today. I unfortunately couldn’t attend the meeting but would love to hear if anyone did and what the atmosphere was. Keep standing up, keep making your voice heard, you matter.
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2023.06.07 08:49 VerniGreen Prisoner stripped of his constitutional right to marry by the DOC

Hi,
My fiancé is in state prison and we had set September 2023 as our date to get married for over a year. Back then, you could get married twice a year, once in the spring (in April) and in the fall (in September), when the register of deeds would be present to check on your spouse’s identity.
In January, I reached out to the county’s register of deeds who gave me September 23rd as a pending fall date for weddings. I then started getting papers together and reached out to my homeland’s Consulate (I’m not a US citizen) to get the certificate I needed to then get my marriage certificate transcribed in my homeland.
In March, the DOC changed the wedding policy. It states than inmates are allowed to get married but there will be no celebration. Except it needs to be solemnized to be valid… the DOC came up with an illegal policy.
In April, the Register of Deeds told me they had reached out to the DOC to let them know they would no longer deliver licenses for prison weddings and that the policy needed to be revamped.
In May, I emailed the Secretary of Corrections to discuss the subject. She forwarded me to the Director of Prisons who assured me that the policy had been “ran through their legal counsel” and that it was “legal”. I asked her if she could explain me how to proceed to get married because I felt like something was missing… so she forwarded me to the DOC’s general counsel, who finally told me the policy was indeed “not compliant with State statutes”.
We’re three months and 16 days away. The DOC’s general counsel doesn’t answer my email anymore, and in my last contact with the Register of Deeds yesterday, there was no progress made.
I got the certificate from the Consulate dated April 18th and it’s valid for a year, meaning the fall date is my only change to get married because I have to redo the fastidious process (money wise and time wise) that it was to get it.
We believe that we’re getting “punished” because of the DOC’s incompetence and that he’s being stripped from his constitutional right to get married.
Should I “threaten” to sue to pressure them into revamping their policy faster? Should I contact a lawyer?
Thank you for reading this book 😬 and thank you for your help!
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2023.06.07 08:48 il0vem0ntana Joyous truck stop moment!

I work as an assistant manager in a convenience store/truck stop. Night before last 3 "missionaries " came in, ignorant super fundy types who are "walking " across the USA to tell everyone how mad God is at them. I'd heard from other locations that they were out and about, so was looking forward to it😁.
They came in while I was parked in the food service corner for a break. They did their spiel on my very sweet coworker, holding up 3 or 4 customers in line. I marched up, handed them back their "invitation, " they refused it, I tore it in half and told them to vacate the premises.
FREEDOM OF SPEECH!! Not on privately owned property.
WE BOUGHT FOOD!! Yup, your transaction is over, time to leave both the building and the property.
HOW DARE YOU INFRINGE ON OUR RIGHTS!! My next call will be to law enforcement to have you removed from the property.
I'd left my phone on the table, so I headed off to get it amid yowls of YOU'D BETTER REPENT AND LEARN YOUR PLACE WOMAN. But they were headed out the door, followed by a couple of my regulars who were making sure they left.
Moments later maintenance coworker speeds in the same door. She uses she but doesn't really care either way. Seems they lit into her, presuming she was male, telling her to "git that woman under control. "
We all peed ourselves laughing. LEO canvassed the property to make sure they left. They've been collecting reports across counties.
I texted my sister and she just responded, it made your whole week and it's only Monday, right? Oh hell yes.
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2023.06.07 08:12 Trick_Wonder_4576 41 Is no fun

I rarely post, but recently I've been reading some posts where people offer uplifting responses to strangers. It has been a source of comfort for me lately. At the moment, I feel overwhelmed and defeated, with a deep sense of loneliness. I want to express my emotions intelligently, as I am experiencing profound emotional wounds and a lack of direction in my life. This description reflects my current state.
The aspects that define me at this moment are a combination of permanent, temporary, cyclical, and circumstantial factors. I find myself in the deepest depression I have ever experienced in my 41 years of life. Considering my current circumstances and the metrics used to measure success, I feel like a complete failure. If one were to analyze my job history and performance, there were moments of incredible opportunities followed by brief success, only to be followed by utter failure. Similarly, if we were to evaluate my personal life in terms of social interactions, dating/marriage, friendships, and health, I would be considered among the lowest performers. It seems like my entire life has been marked by failure.
Furthermore, it seems as though the universe has singled me out for some special kind of punishment. For years, I have felt a sense of surrealism, where every decision or action I take inevitably leads to unfavorable outcomes. Every significant matter in my life has ended in prolonged consequences, worsened circumstances, or some form of material loss. I have missed out on numerous opportunities, chances for marriage and having children have slipped away, I am financially struggling, and I have very few friends apart from one in my former hometown of Chicago and another in Alaska. My spirituality and faith have also been deeply affected by the setbacks and obstacles I have faced, and I am dealing with all of this without the support of my estranged family.
My three best friends, my sisters, and I have not spoken in six years. I can't recall the last time I spoke with my brother, as he doesn't respond to my emails or texts. My mother is suffering from rapid-onset dementia, while my father has recently retired from a lifelong career as a doctor. Throughout my life, my family has systematically scapegoated me, starting with being labeled the black sheep. However, everything changed when I disclosed at the age of 27 that my brother had sexually and physically abused me as a child. Since then, life has been a constant battle against me. The universe seemed to shift its axis, and my life has never been the same. It is particularly disconcerting that my brother, a urologist by profession, is the perpetrator of such heinous acts.
My sisters, as research suggests, took sides between the "black sheep/fuckup/substance user" and the successful urologist. They accused me of lying, changing my story, waiting too long, claiming it was nothing, and even being jealous of my brother's life, which includes a mansion, a Porsche, wealth, and respect. Since I have accomplished nothing, they believe I fabricated drunken tales of childhood and only decided to reveal this ultra-specific story at the age of 27. I never imagined that I would lose my family in this way. It feels like I have lost my identity, purpose, support system, best friends, and confidants – my sisters. They have subjected me to the silent treatment, which my brother also employs, treating me as if I don't exist. My sister's last text message summed it up when she said that they don't get together to talk about me anymore because I don't come up in their conversations. It was the same sister who initially encouraged me to reveal the truth about the abuse but then betrayed me and twisted the narrative.
In my family, my case of sexual abuse was not an isolated incident. My father, a physician and at the time a pediatrician in Illinois, had a second case of sexual abuse and incest in his side of the family. His younger brother, the second oldest among seven siblings, also abused his own daughter, my cousin. He is also Dr. A few years before I disclosed my own abuse as an adult, my cousin trusted my father enough to disclose her abuse to him. Despite my father not knowing about my case at the time, he took no professional action to report the abuse committed by another doctor, his brother, who abused his now niece, and did nothing.During that same disclosure, my cousin admitted that her two brothers, who are also my cousins, had abused her as well. This meant that five members of her household, three of whom were abusing one child, were involved in these traumatic events. My father, along with his brother and siblings, did nothing legally to report these incidents. My uncle, the abuser, is now the president of a hospital in East Texas. So technically, my case was the fourth, following my uncle, cousin, and another cousin. One of those cousins is now a pastor of a small church community, while the other works for a former presidential candidate's company. As for me, I have been trapped in a cycle of failure to launch as an adult, mental health issues, and intermittent substance abuse problems for the past 20 years. And that's not even the end of it – the fifth case involves my cousin, who was arrested in a state capital where he worked as a therapist or counselor. He was arrested for filming his young neighbor through her window. I am aware of his arrest but do not have any information regarding the progress of his case or its resolution.
To put it all together, it is an intricate mess of narcissism, ego, power, control, and childhood trauma. I strongly believe I have developed complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) as a result of these experiences. In fact, I am certain that I have.
Fast-forward to the present, and I am writing this from a motel room, where there are too many details to recount from the past six months since my return from Montana. In a way, I followed the path of my other abused cousin – I left. However, I ultimately failed and had to return to a city near my parents, a city I despise. To add to my troubles, I was falsely accused of felony domestic violence soon after my return, further fueling my sense of failure and shame. My parents, upon hearing about the incident, made it clear that they wanted little to do with me. Speaking of Montana, my experiences and the year I spent there were truly nightmarish, to say the least. But that's a story for another time.
During the car ride to a hospital in a small town in the same county, my father and I had an opportunity for a discussion about the abuse. I wanted to understand why he did nothing in all five cases, why the eldest child seems to be targeted (true for my brother and cousin), why successful doctors are involved – including a pastor, a consultant, and now a urologist after the fact. Did he not notice the intergenerational pattern and his own parental negligence as a physician and a parent of adult children? I questioned why he took no action, why his behavior changed so drastically in the past three years, why he lied about his knowledge of nondisclosure agreements (NDAs) when he had used them for possible infidelity and had lied about private settlements. He even harassed me using the police, assassinated my character in our small town, and now charged me with striking him, resulting in false statements and allegations. As a consequence, my reputation has been tarnished while my father's remains pristine. We currently reside in a town where he practiced medicine, and the consequences for me are severe. Deep in my heart, I know that his post-arrest behavior towards me has been consistently inconsistent. He evades questioning, avoids contact and visits, and shows no signs of wanting a relationship. Instead, he guilt-trips me, shifts blame, engages in word salad and gaslighting, and pathologically lies.
As I sit here now, I wonder: What can one do in such a dire situation? There seem to be no options, no answers, no safety nets of money or emotional support, no motivation, and no joy – only the looming threat of a potentially harsh sentence. Even worse, my father has attempted to record my phone calls and offered me money not to hire a proper defense attorney or pursue litigation, just a week before I was supposed to accept a four-year adjudication plea as an innocent party. Then, when I decided to plead my innocence at the last minute during the trial, he abandoned me once again, signaling to me that money is somehow tainted. Regardless, it's gone now.
I apologize for unloading all of this on Reddit, and I understand that it may be quite depressing for others to read. However, I feel that I have reached the end of my fight, not against just one issue, but against a conglomerate of issues that have stolen my life and time, offering me nothing in return. I desperately need legal advice, emotional support, prayers, or any form of assistance. I find myself lost in a maze of confusion, where every turn I make is a miscalculation, distorted by backward perspectives and reflections off other elements. Over the past six weeks since leaving my job due to a problematic relationship with the owner, I have been living a transient and isolated existence in the dark corners of this wretched city. It feels as though I have been exiled from my own life. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I want to assure you that I'm not dramatizing this situation; I'm simply sharing my experience because I have no one else to talk to. I have been completely alone and isolated since losing my job.
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2023.06.07 08:10 Trick_Wonder_4576 RE: Deep SHit

I rarely post, but recently I've been reading some posts where people offer uplifting responses to strangers. It has been a source of comfort for me lately. At the moment, I feel overwhelmed and defeated, with a deep sense of loneliness. I want to express my emotions intelligently, as I am experiencing profound emotional wounds and a lack of direction in my life. This description reflects my current state.
The aspects that define me at this moment are a combination of permanent, temporary, cyclical, and circumstantial factors. I find myself in the deepest depression I have ever experienced in my 41 years of life. Considering my current circumstances and the metrics used to measure success, I feel like a complete failure. If one were to analyze my job history and performance, there were moments of incredible opportunities followed by brief success, only to be followed by utter failure. Similarly, if we were to evaluate my personal life in terms of social interactions, dating/marriage, friendships, and health, I would be considered among the lowest performers. It seems like my entire life has been marked by failure.
Furthermore, it seems as though the universe has singled me out for some special kind of punishment. For years, I have felt a sense of surrealism, where every decision or action I take inevitably leads to unfavorable outcomes. Every significant matter in my life has ended in prolonged consequences, worsened circumstances, or some form of material loss. I have missed out on numerous opportunities, chances for marriage and having children have slipped away, I am financially struggling, and I have very few friends apart from one in my former hometown of Chicago and another in Alaska. My spirituality and faith have also been deeply affected by the setbacks and obstacles I have faced, and I am dealing with all of this without the support of my estranged family.
My three best friends, my sisters, and I have not spoken in six years. I can't recall the last time I spoke with my brother, as he doesn't respond to my emails or texts. My mother is suffering from rapid-onset dementia, while my father has recently retired from a lifelong career as a doctor. Throughout my life, my family has systematically scapegoated me, starting with being labeled the black sheep. However, everything changed when I disclosed at the age of 27 that my brother had sexually and physically abused me as a child. Since then, life has been a constant battle against me. The universe seemed to shift its axis, and my life has never been the same. It is particularly disconcerting that my brother, a urologist by profession, is the perpetrator of such heinous acts.
My sisters, as research suggests, took sides between the "black sheep/fuckup/substance user" and the successful urologist. They accused me of lying, changing my story, waiting too long, claiming it was nothing, and even being jealous of my brother's life, which includes a mansion, a Porsche, wealth, and respect. Since I have accomplished nothing, they believe I fabricated drunken tales of childhood and only decided to reveal this ultra-specific story at the age of 27. I never imagined that I would lose my family in this way. It feels like I have lost my identity, purpose, support system, best friends, and confidants – my sisters. They have subjected me to the silent treatment, which my brother also employs, treating me as if I don't exist. My sister's last text message summed it up when she said that they don't get together to talk about me anymore because I don't come up in their conversations. It was the same sister who initially encouraged me to reveal the truth about the abuse but then betrayed me and twisted the narrative.
In my family, my case of sexual abuse was not an isolated incident. My father, a physician and at the time a pediatrician in Illinois, had a second case of sexual abuse and incest in his side of the family. His younger brother, the second oldest among seven siblings, also abused his own daughter, my cousin. He is also Dr. A few years before I disclosed my own abuse as an adult, my cousin trusted my father enough to disclose her abuse to him. Despite my father not knowing about my case at the time, he took no professional action to report the abuse committed by another doctor, his brother, who abused his now niece, and did nothing.During that same disclosure, my cousin admitted that her two brothers, who are also my cousins, had abused her as well. This meant that five members of her household, three of whom were abusing one child, were involved in these traumatic events. My father, along with his brother and siblings, did nothing legally to report these incidents. My uncle, the abuser, is now the president of a hospital in East Texas. So technically, my case was the fourth, following my uncle, cousin, and another cousin. One of those cousins is now a pastor of a small church community, while the other works for a former presidential candidate's company. As for me, I have been trapped in a cycle of failure to launch as an adult, mental health issues, and intermittent substance abuse problems for the past 20 years. And that's not even the end of it – the fifth case involves my cousin, who was arrested in a state capital where he worked as a therapist or counselor. He was arrested for filming his young neighbor through her window. I am aware of his arrest but do not have any information regarding the progress of his case or its resolution.
To put it all together, it is an intricate mess of narcissism, ego, power, control, and childhood trauma. I strongly believe I have developed complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) as a result of these experiences. In fact, I am certain that I have.
Fast-forward to the present, and I am writing this from a motel room, where there are too many details to recount from the past six months since my return from Montana. In a way, I followed the path of my other abused cousin – I left. However, I ultimately failed and had to return to a city near my parents, a city I despise. To add to my troubles, I was falsely accused of felony domestic violence soon after my return, further fueling my sense of failure and shame. My parents, upon hearing about the incident, made it clear that they wanted little to do with me. Speaking of Montana, my experiences and the year I spent there were truly nightmarish, to say the least. But that's a story for another time.
During the car ride to a hospital in a small town in the same county, my father and I had an opportunity for a discussion about the abuse. I wanted to understand why he did nothing in all five cases, why the eldest child seems to be targeted (true for my brother and cousin), why successful doctors are involved – including a pastor, a consultant, and now a urologist after the fact. Did he not notice the intergenerational pattern and his own parental negligence as a physician and a parent of adult children? I questioned why he took no action, why his behavior changed so drastically in the past three years, why he lied about his knowledge of nondisclosure agreements (NDAs) when he had used them for possible infidelity and had lied about private settlements. He even harassed me using the police, assassinated my character in our small town, and now charged me with striking him, resulting in false statements and allegations. As a consequence, my reputation has been tarnished while my father's remains pristine. We currently reside in a town where he practiced medicine, and the consequences for me are severe. Deep in my heart, I know that his post-arrest behavior towards me has been consistently inconsistent. He evades questioning, avoids contact and visits, and shows no signs of wanting a relationship. Instead, he guilt-trips me, shifts blame, engages in word salad and gaslighting, and pathologically lies.
As I sit here now, I wonder: What can one do in such a dire situation? There seem to be no options, no answers, no safety nets of money or emotional support, no motivation, and no joy – only the looming threat of a potentially harsh sentence. Even worse, my father has attempted to record my phone calls and offered me money not to hire a proper defense attorney or pursue litigation, just a week before I was supposed to accept a four-year adjudication plea as an innocent party. Then, when I decided to plead my innocence at the last minute during the trial, he abandoned me once again, signaling to me that money is somehow tainted. Regardless, it's gone now.
I apologize for unloading all of this on Reddit, and I understand that it may be quite depressing for others to read. However, I feel that I have reached the end of my fight, not against just one issue, but against a conglomerate of issues that have stolen my life and time, offering me nothing in return. I desperately need legal advice, emotional support, prayers, or any form of assistance. I find myself lost in a maze of confusion, where every turn I make is a miscalculation, distorted by backward perspectives and reflections off other elements. Over the past six weeks since leaving my job due to a problematic relationship with the owner, I have been living a transient and isolated existence in the dark corners of this wretched city. It feels as though I have been exiled from my own life. I don't know what to do or who to turn to. I want to assure you that I'm not dramatizing this situation; I'm simply sharing my experience because I have no one else to talk to. I have been completely alone and isolated since losing my job.
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