Can alolan raichu be shiny
2021.04.15 02:05 PokemonShinyFails
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2023.03.20 19:46 Strong_Economics2831 Which good quality perfumes/ mists to purchase from the US that last long and aren’t too expensive?
Hi, I just joined this sub and came across it at the right time. I was hoping to get recommendations from this community on some good quality perfumes/ mists I can pick up from the US at a good price. I’d love recos for male and female fragrances, wanna buy both. I wouldn’t go for something too expensive, and if you have suggestions on where I can get good deals in NYC or can order online, that’ll be awesome too! Currently I just have a few Victoria’s Secret mists on my list.
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2023.03.20 19:45 Smoothjazz33 30 [M4F] I'm bored, you're bored... Let's fix it!
Hey! My ADD brain is desperate for some dopamine on this long-ass work day! Anyone want to keep me company?
About me: I’m a tallish, decently good looking, sarcastic guy from the mountain west region on the US.
I have a cushy work-from-home job so I have all the time in the world to talk to you! I consider myself a well adjusted adult sometimes…
I am pretty well-rounded and love all cultures! I lived in the UK for a few years.
I can be pretty competitive especially when playing sports, especially basketball. I enjoy binge watching shows and gaming.
If you think we will get along, send me a message!
P.s. I have a golden retriever and I will send you pictures of him if you ask nicely ;)
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2023.03.20 19:38 ursbear I can't open settings, my audio service is not running, there are no thumbnails to my image, and my PC crashes 5 times a day. WTF is going on????
Hi, I don't even know where to begin. A few months ago my PC started crashing pretty frequently. Honestly, I didn't care. The screen would freeze, and it was annoying, but I'd just hold down the power button and restart my PC. Sometimes the screen would freeze but I could still hear audio playing smoothly, like from a Youtube video. other times my audio would start looping when the screen froze. And other times I would get that blue screen with a :( face, stating that Windows would need to check for errors before restarting.
These all have become more frequent, along with a myriad of other problems.
First I noticed that I couldn't see any thumbnails or image previews to my jpg or png files. Each file just had an image of a blank page where that should have been located. I saw barely any results for this problem on Google, and once again, it was more trouble and effort to fix this problem than it was to deal with it.
Then a few days ago, while I'm streaming on Discord to some friends, my PC crashes, and when I try to boot it back up, it comes on extremely slow, and won't load any of my desktop icons or anything on my start menu, it's just a blank bar, which, if I click on it, does that thing where it disappears and then reappears after a millisecond, like it's refreshing. But no matter how many times I click it, nothing else would happen. It would never fully load in. I restarted my PC multiple times, and the problem would not go away. Finally, I hold down the power button, and just let my computer sit for half an hour, come back, and the problem is solved.
However, now my PC will not render any audio, and when I hover over my sound icon on the start menu bar thing at the bottom of my screen, it says "The audio device is not running" and has a red x next to the speaker symbol. I looked it up, and this problem also seems to be obscure and a f***ing pain to fix.
Lastly, I considered just doing a factory reset on my PC, but lo and behold, I cannot even open settings to do so. Notably, there is no thumbnail image where the gear icon would be, it's that same blank page I had with my jpg and png files, and no matter how I try to open settings, it either gives absolutely zero response, or it loads settings for a moment, I can see everything, but then closes, SOMETIMES giving this message: "the instruction at 0x00007FFCF61FAC36 referenced memory at 0x000002595F950000. The required data was not placed into memory because of an I/0 error status of 0xc000007f."
I have no f***ing clue why this is happening. The only thing I can think of is that I have low disk space, and that's causing issues but I've been having the crashing PC problems since before I started to fill up my PC's memory that much. This thing cost me $1000, and I don't want that to all be a waste. Any help would be very appreciated, thank you.
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2023.03.20 19:37 christmasclubmichael Becoming Financially Stable
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Not everyone is in the same financial state, the financial ladder helps understand where you are to give you the best chance of reaching financial security. https://preview.redd.it/wt8absnouxoa1.png?width=722&format=png&auto=webp&s=f4cffdd07a4ffe426e2701b6a7199c131f11af91
Here’s a quick overview of the 5 steps in the financially ladder.
- Financial Security → Your money makes enough income to cover your expenses for the rest of your life.
- Financial Autonomy → You are taking risks like investing or starting a business to grow your money.
- Financially stable → You set & progress to your goals, and can handle surprise expenses without taking on new debt.
- Financially vulnerable → You can’t seem to get ahead and rely on credit cards to handle surprise expenses.
- Financial Hardship → You don’t have a stable income or need to rely on others for regular financial support.
Where do i fall in the financial ladder?
If you can pay your bills but can’t seem to get ahead, then you are most likely financially vulnerable.
Good news, is that’s exactly who these articles are for. To get you from financially vulnerable, to financially stable.
How do i become financially stable? https://preview.redd.it/7ctc1k4ruxoa1.png?width=995&format=png&auto=webp&s=343caeaea0e74c880f72477832fe6dcdb31569ef
Above is an image that shows you the difference of financially vulnerable, and financially stable.
What’s very important is what is NOT
on here. What’s not in here includes:
- Making more money
- Credit card rewards
- Low interest rate mortgage
But I see those everywhere, are those not important?
None of these are important to moving up the financially ladder as:
- Setting savings goals
- Setting aside money for goals & expenses on payday
- Being able to handle surprise expenses without debt
Once you can do all these consistently, you’ll start getting ahead. And once you’re ahead, then you’ll have much more time, money & energy to focus on how to make the most of your money.
Making the most of your money makes the most sense only after you are financially stable.
2023.03.20 19:31 wilhelmpeltzer2 Carbon Cleaning
Good Afternoon everyone, Yesterday I decided to do a carbon cleaning on my 2006 IS250 because I've read a lot about the issues and my current automotive teacher used to be a tech at Lexus. I noticed that about halfway thru the Seafoam can the exhaust started pouring black smoke, which I assumed was carbon. Can anyone confirm that it's normal? It smelled weird for a good 20 mins until I was jamming it on the freeway. It runs fine now, but did I burn the carbon up or just fry my motor?
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2023.03.20 19:24 fruitlamps 26F Looking for a coding buddy!
Hi! I’m currently teaching web development to myself but with work and everything else going on in my life, I find it hard to set aside time, even just a small amount, to do the work. I also tend to struggle with focusing and tend to have quite a bit of executive dysfunction. So a push from someone else might be helpful. I can also help keep you accountable too! And it’d be nice to have someone to talk to about this. I’d preferably want someone who‘s also studying, even better if they’re coding too. Feel free to drop me a message! ✨
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2023.03.20 19:10 rnglegend420 NSC - Adults Only Vanilla Hard Survival
Hi There, I've started up a new Minecraft Realm as of a few weeks ago
It's a Standard Bedrock Hard Survival.
You can access this from Nintendo Switch, Xbox, PS4/5, PC, or Mobile.
Rules for the Realm retroactively apply all the Reddit Rules but also include:
- No Griefing
- No Eyesore Extreme Towers/Poles.
- No inappropriate/NSFW Builds
- No Troll killing others.
- No theft.
- No Mega Builds Near Spawn
- No extreme distance traveling until the new update patch is released.
- No Redstone Lag Machines/farms.
The general goal of the realm is to have a functional Spawn Town, Nether Hub, and Farms of various decree for players to utilize and to cooperatively engage and have fun in basic Minecraft gameplay.
What I'm looking for in a participant is a dedicated adult player that is not apart of 10 different realms and maintains reasonable levels of maturity.
Woke nonsense, mental gymnastics, politics, etc. Absolutely won't be tolerated.
This is a join, play, have fun realm.
If you'd like to join and play just reply a comment here with your discord information/interest and I'll send you an invite.
Current realm progress is a general safe spawn area, nether hub, villager trading and crop farms.
Updated: More progress has been made with a spawn town area and a large area has been terraformed for future building of community builds and projects. The End has been linked to and accessed.
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2023.03.20 18:53 nothing_nobody_0 Dealing with guilt over transitioning
I'm living at my mom's house again, after going to college for a couple years and starting HRT last year. I was really happy for a long time, watching my hair get thicker on my arms, my voice start to deepen. I was and am more confident in myself than I've ever been. Going outside and meeting people is easier now that I pass to a lot of people. Except when it comes to my parents. They don't like that I'm doing this, and they make it really hard and painful despite saying they love me unconditionally. I deal with the misgendering and deadnaming, other offensive stuff because I'm just glad they didn't disown me. I don't bother asserting boundaries because I don't want to cause tension. It's easier.
But I've been home for almost a year now. I don't go back to college until the fall and even then I'll be a commuter. It's getting really hard. Both of my parents have a history of being like... insanely emotionally abusive. It was really bad growing up, but they eased off when I turned 18 and moved out. We started getting along better and I swept most of the things they did under the rug. But fights still happen, and all the damage they caused is still there. It affects me every day and being home again is making it worse.
My mom has tried to make me doubt myself in all of this. She's done it my whole life, trying to make me ashamed of the things I enjoy so that I stop doing them of my own choice when she can no longer take them away from me. Making fun of things, being unapologetically invasive, putting my flaws and mistakes on blast to embarrass me. As a teen it absolutely destroyed my self esteem. Point is, she's been doing it to my transition too. It died down a little as it became clear I wasn't going to stop the hormones but now I feel that bug in my brain. The damage is done.
Coupled with the constant misgendering & the fact that I'm now being deadnamed at my new job (have not come out yet, kinda scared to) has just... really started wearing me down. I got a taste of freedom at college. I had friends and professors and coworkers who all saw me as a guy, or at least pretended to. And now that's gone. I barely hang out with anyone anymore. I'm stuck at home all the time, there's nowhere to go. I can't move out yet because I'm trying to save money. I really just threw myself backwards in time. I'm practically a closeted teenager again, but this time I have to hide the effects of my transition that I worked so hard to get, and were so proud of before.
I'm almost ashamed of myself, and I know that is exactly what my parents want. They want their daughter back. They want me to change my mind. And honestly, even if I did feel like detransitioning, I wouldn't do it for the sole purpose of not letting them say "I told you so." The idea of going back to being a girl makes me feel disgusting. But I'm sitting here pretending every day, going to work and listening to old men call me honey like I'm not donning an undercut and 5 'o clock shadow. I mean, before I cut my hair some people were mistaking me as transfemme. It's pretty funny because I actually got gendered correctly by people who thought they were misgendering me on purpose!
But anyway, I don't really know what to do. My mom urged me to come out at work and to the rest of the family, telling me to be myself. But that's really strange coming from someone who still calls me her daughter. I mentioned legally changing my name and gender eventually, and it sparked a whole discussion where she said the name change would be "really hard" for her, and then she called me a liar (for if I were to put M on my drivers license). The liar thing really stung, and I actually recognized it as a manipulation tactic because she's been using it since I was a small child. She always says she HATES liars, and says it with so much weight. If you're calling me a liar and saying you hate liars, you're saying you'd hate me if I did this. Point blank. That's not me reading into things too much, that's literally just what you're saying.
It's all just... this really complicated, deeply rooted emotional manipulation. I can't assert my boundaries. I can't hold her accountable for her actions. It's always been like this, but now I don't have the safety of distance from her. And I'm paying the price. It gets into my head.
I worked so hard to grow my confidence while I was away and now the same shit is happening again. I don't know how to combat it. All I can do is grit my teeth and pray that it'll be easier when I move out, but I have lost so much confidence. I won't come out at my new job. I really want to go into this new college as a man, but I'm scared I won't have the guts to email anyone to tell them. But that's my ticket to freedom. I HAVE to. I don't know how to get such deeply rooted guilt out of me and just be myself. Especially when the source of it is hovering over me all the time.
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2023.03.20 18:48 IndependenceAway4685 LDR Just Ended, reach out to her (F29) or let her come back to me (M25)
I’m looking for some advice on what I feel like is a unique situation. My girlfriend (29) and I (25) have been in a long distance relationship (me Northern California her Southern California) for about 11 months now. We met at Stagecoach last year and have talked everyday since. Neither of us have met someone that was nearly the same person, likes all the same foods, willing to try new things, enjoy to travel together, and can adapt to almost every social circle, etc. We have always had really constructive conversations and don’t ever really fight about things. Emotions can certainly rise on some topics but nothing damaging.
Since the beginning I have been for the most part chasing her I feel, I was always attempting to get her to commit more and more as time went on. From the moment we met I knew she was the right choice for me and I pretty much went all in from the start and gave 100%. Now while she gave 100% effort and made our relationship a priority she still has always held back a bit. It took her 3 months to post us together on her instagram story, 4 months for us to become official, and whenever the topic of us living in the same area came up we could never come to a good middle ground, even with me offering to go where she is partially because she doesn’t know if she wanted to move somewhere for work. However, we would see each other basically every weekend, and being together or apart was always so much fun we are 100% each others best friends.
Recently though all of this is coming to a head. For the last couple months especially she has really been struggling with being happy with herself. She has been feeling not fulfilled in life, the environment at her sales position job is not constructive, and is mostly living in the past and looking forward to the future and can never seem to live in the moment. As of a month ago we decided to take a 30 day break from the relationship. She began to go to therapy once a week, and is really trying to work on her own happiness because 100% effort in our relationship doesn’t give enough time to sit with herself and be at ease. The end of the 30 days was last Friday and we talked about how things have gone. I have found a lot more clarity on my side of what actually makes me happy and what I want in life is definitely a relationship with her and whatever sacrifices I need to make in my life to make that possible I’m willing to do. She on the other hand has made some progress but is still lost and she decided that we should just end the relationship. On the grounds that if we are meant to be together we will be back into each others lives.
She goes on and on about how much she loves me, I have been the greatest person to her that she’s ever met, and she misses me a lot.
So I don’t know how to go about this. I can’t imagine there is absolutely nothing I can do from this point but wait for a call from her to come in months or a year saying “I’m ready for a relationship now”.
We ended on good terms with no toxic fight or lashes at the other person is was just a sad horrible situation to experience.
Any advice on what I should do? Should I still reach out once a month or so, come down to visit her in a month or two to have dinner or some kind of exchange, or just leave it be.
I’d like to believe that if we lived in the same vicinity that we may not be in this situation because we would not have to be away from home as often and our lives together could be a bit normal without constant communication or seeing each other any moment we had free.
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2023.03.20 18:46 DentalDavid TD Freebie
2023.03.20 18:46 gills61 What blood tests indicate PCOS?
For context, I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 14-15 based on irregular periods and hirsutism alone. I didn't have an ultrasound to check for cysts and my gyno didn't run blood work. I was handed BC and that gave me a regular period up until 8 months ago.
I've been experiencing a whole bunch of symptoms for the past 5 years that are getting progressively worse (weight gain/inability to lose, mental health and mood swings, severe cognitive dysfunction, severe fatigue, etc). I had an ultrasound for the first time last year when my period randomly disappeared, no cysts or damage present. I'm now seeing an endo who is running a ton of bloodwork and is testing to confirm or reject my original PCOS diagnosis, along with checking for Hashimoto's and other thyroid issues, and Cushing's. I am now off my BC and had been off for 4 weeks leading up to blood work at my endo's request. My endo agrees that I have insulin resistance based on previous bloodwork and my symptoms, but I know IR can be caused by many other conditions.
Aside from testosterone and DHEA-S, what else should I be looking for to determine whether I do or don't have PCOS? Even though I'm in range, is there an optimal threshold that I'm still surpassing?
Testosterone + 55 (Range: 20-70 ng/dL)
Free Testosterone + 6.5 (Range: 0.8-7.4 pg/mL)
Sex Binding Hormone + 62 (Range: 30-135 nmol/L)
DHEA-S + 213 (Range: 65-380 ug/mL)
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2023.03.20 18:44 Herb-Genie420 At a weird spot in life.
Broke up with my girlfriend of five years like six weeks ago. We were pretty much falling away from each other for a while and I was ready to move on more or less. I ended up meeting this new girl like a week ago. She is honestly crazy and extremely needy - but it’s mostly because she’s had a lot of trauma and has been abused and she has high functioning autism but no one ever helped her with it or believed her growing up. I also need to mention that from the get go with this new girl she came off as a mommy dom type girl who had specific needs that needed to be met.
So. She came to stay with me, I ended up really liking her even though she stressed me out. It was almost like dealing with her problems and loving her made my problems that much smaller. I got her hair and nails done for her and she helped me clean and organize my whole house. Something that no one has ever done for me, and was my biggest issue in my last relationship. She even cooked dinner and started to over take the control of the groceries. But my mom didn’t like her. She hated her. Mostly because of the fact she had a previous only fans account.
She convinced me to let her go in to my house with my sister and pretty much “remove” this new person. This new person now still is willing to talk to me, but doesn’t trust coming back, and doesn’t want to right away, which pretty much proves to me that my mom was wrong and that this girl doesn’t want to use me. But also, this new girl told me that she doesn’t care about the mommy dom shit, and it was just mostly a front she puts on and that she genuinely did end up caring for me in a a real relationship way and that she needs real stability in her life.
I don’t really know what I’m getting at or what I’m confused about. But for some reason I just feel in my heart that I want to go back to get her and give her everything I can even though she doesn’t have much to offer right now I do feel like she has lots of potential to do great things she just needs to recover some and get some help from a therapist and take care of all these issues she never did. My mom though saw that as someone using me for everything I had. But if she is cleaning the house too and helping me then it’s kinda equal right? And also I feel like if I feel a certain way, I should believe in that feeling and not let my mom or anyone for that matter change that feeling for me. I just don’t know if I’m being stupid or not.
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2023.03.20 18:27 gloomiebunnie Partner (25M) has been distancing from me (28F) as coping mechanism.
I just need to let this out. I don't know what the to feel. I am so fucking confused.
For context, we have been dating for 2 years.
My partner told me that they're mentally unstable these past few days out of pressure of the things going on in their life. They have been really distant, almost non-existent because they chose to isolate themselves from me. Afaik. They're probably just ignoring me you know? And not the other people in their life, such as their friends.
I was beginning to feel anxious because of this space and silence I was getting at first and got upset over it, forcing them to tell me what's happening and all of that. I tried to make them feel better but apparently, no advice was wanted and what I said just came out so wrong. Because it seems like we have very different situations in life to not know how it is like for them, of what they are going through. So they snapped at me.
I apologized and left them alone, giving them the space that they wanted. They eventually apologized for acting that way and told me that they just wanted the stuff they need to do to be over. They didn't want to force themselves to talk to me yet because of it. Stuff happening to them, being mentally unstable and wanting those stuff to be done first.
But you know, what they're talking about is life in general. And I feel like they're making a fool out of me by doing this. This distance. No communication. Although I understand that sometimes, some people needs alone time for a while. But... I don't know what to expect from this. Even if I can guess what's gonna happen, it has to come from them of what they wanna do from now right? Getting that kind of thing done will take such a fucking long time. Because it's about pressure in life in general. Getting things done. It wasn't specified to me of what those things are. If being mentally well, career-wise related? Financially stable? So I hope you see where I'm coming from by venting out.
So yeah. I asked them if they still wanted to be with me while in the process of getting their shit together and I haven't received any response until now. It's driving me crazy. We are not in a fucking situationship to just let me hang like this.
I understand that they're going through something really major. But it really won't hurt to actually tell your partner a little bit of reassurance or anything. How would I know if they still wanted to be with me right?
I hate it. I hate being confused and anxious.
Has anyone ever been like that? Do you just need space but still want the person or the moment you distance, you don't actually care about that person anymore?
I don't know too if I should send another fucking message or let them be.
TLDR: Partner has been distancing from me for a while now and I don't know what to do next. Hoping you guys could give me insights whatever he is feeling or thinking. And what is the best way to approach.
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2023.03.20 18:25 Johanna-Draconis Ep87 - Why do I end up in bad relationships? (Sabotage II) - The Deconstruction Of C-PTSD - Johanna Draconis
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Hello my dears! My name is Johanna, and I welcome you to the Johanna Draconis - The Deconstruction Of C-PTSD podcast.
In this episode we will talk about how we end up in bad relationships - not that there is a foolproof way, but we suffering from PTSD or the like - often find that we keep having bad relationships. Be it family, friends, partner, coworker - simply any form of relationship.
You are not only imagining it - it is something that is known and it is really important to understand the reason behind. This is an overview, if you want more of a specific point - please tell me. Either way let us dive into it and find the reasons why.
I could - without a doubt - fill a library with this question. Human relationships are a huge topic with many nuances and complications and the like. So this episode is here to give you the short answer so you know where you need to look.
Also this only covers the segment where you get screwed over by PTSD and the like - not the kind where you screw yourself over. That is up to you. It is also worth reminding, that we are talking about ANY sort of relationship - not just the romantic one.
We are going into the 2 main factors and then into the consequences that follow it.
Relationship with motheMother figure - 0 to 2 years [1:22]
For the first factor I want to say beforehand, that this is independent of how good or bad everything else was. When you are around roughly 0-2 years old - the relationship with your primary caregiver, usually a parent, will shape your form of attachment.
The later years will reinforce or lessen it - of course there is always room for adjustment. You learn how much you can rely on your primary caregiver to fulfill your needs and keep you alive. If all goes well, and a majority of people it does, it is a secure attachment.
If not it is either avoidant, ambivalent or disorganized. This may lead to an inability to trust others, being clingy, problems with intimacy, unable to share thoughts, insecurity, bad at dealing with breakups, negative self image and the like.
So in other words - simplified - if you have been feeling insecure and/or not confident in a relationship, be it about yourself or your counterpart - then you should really look into this topic.
Relationship to others - 2 to 6 [2:31]
The second factor, from the age of roughly 2-6 years - we learn our definition of normal. That means we learn how a normal relationship and a normal day looks like. At least in theory we do. We learn how we are treated is how it should be.
So if you grow up in a household where when a person enters the room slaps everyone, then you will perceive that as normal and repeat that behavior. Until you learn otherwise. And if you get treated badly, you will think that is okay and normal.
You are most likely reliving your relationships you had as a child - the good, the bad and the ugly. And in combination with the first factor - this mean you will accept to be treated in a specific way, sadly often in a bad way, because you don’t know it differently.
And the sad truth is: People will treat you the way you let them get away with. If they don’t like boundaries or you saying no and standing up for yourself - they do not have your best interest at heart.
You should have been taught to stand up for yourself as a child - as a way to ensure your wellbeing. If you haven’t I strongly recommend learning how to do it.
Side effects [3:48]
With these 2 factors in mind a lot will make suddenly sense. There is also the consequence, that these factors influence your body language, how you move, how you talk, how you express yourself, how you word things and so on.
Now this has 2 consequences. One, you will this way attract similar people, who are similar unhealthy or in a similar position or share the same mentality and so on. And they will not encourage positive change and attack you for changing.
Meaning you will have a less to no supportive social network. The other one is, that you will attract abusers. Who are drawn to these signals and know you will be a good target. You will accept being treated in a way, that no healthy person would.
And they know exactly how to push the buttons they need to - as they know the insecurities and weak spots. This allows them to easily trap their victim and make escaping them incredible hard. It is best to avoid them as much as you can.
If you are unsure if you are in a bad relationship, ask yourself “Do I feel comfortable, secure and protected in this relationship? Does it make me happy?”. If not, it might be wise to look into it. And ask yourself why you are in that relationship?
Obligation shouldn’t be the reason. But that and more is a whole other topic, we might get into another time.
That was it for todays episode, I hope you found it helpful. Hope you are safe and well. And as always, if you have any questions or feedback and the like, please let me know at [[email protected]
More information and transcript you can find as usually under johannadraconis.com/Podcast
, information regarding therapy you can find under johannadraconis.com/Therapy
and links are in the description.
I hope to see you next time. Watch yourselves and have a wonderful time.
2023.03.20 18:25 Cynosure342 29 M someone to talk with long term [Chat]
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2023.03.20 18:22 mirunabadger Updated schedule
Hello! I am u/mirunabadger
and I made a post here during Spooktober, but now I have a new schedule! Channel
: twitch.tv/mirunabadger Schedule
: Mon, Tue, Thu
8PM GMT+1 is shooter game day Fri
3PM GMT+1 is fun/chill/puzzle game day and sometimes collab day Games
: I'm currently playing Red Dead Redemption 2 from Monday to Thursday. On Fridays I play games like PlateUp, We were here, The Room etc. There are lots of fun things happening on the badger stream, such as challenges, sour candy, hot snacks, shots and more. Come take a look and if you like it you're welcome to stay :) Goals
: I'm striving to be a full-time streamer and create a safe community where we can all share good vibes.
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2023.03.20 17:41 Mob--Psychic dragon ball Group Rp
Introduction Thank you in advance for taking the time out of your busy schedules to read my post! While hope this can lead to a fun and fruitful writing partrnership, obviously there are some guidelines and rules would like to first go over before we advance to chatting! a PASSWORD is located somewhere in the post. All messages not mentioning the password will be ignored and rejected to ensure you've read through my rules, guidelines and preferences!
Roleplay Rules and Guidelines * First off, view my roleplay style to be semi lit to literate [meaning a strong grasp on the English language, grammar and sentence structure] I can easily match my partner.Third Person writing style is preferred.
The Basics; *. The roleplay will be Original characters only, (the password is "quantumania")
please no son or daughter of canon characters
Don't be op from start
I intend to have a variety of arcs for our characters to grow strong together or perhaps even Clash. The first arc being about space pirates looking to make a quick buck by overtaking the weak earth and selling it back at a profit for it's ores and resources.
There will be a template to fill out !
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2023.03.20 17:21 Bubbly-Ninja I'm in grad school but I'm depressed as ever
For context, I'm a first gen american, and college student.
I graduated from my undergrad in 2022. I entered grad school with full tuition and stipend in august of 2022. I'm in my second semester now but I'm depressed as fuck. I lost some weight after stress eating and depressed eating after undergrad. Entering grad school has made me gain weight again about 20 pounds in under 9 months. I don't feel motivated to do any work. I hate my classes, the people are friendly but the classes aren't interesting or just take up my entire life. I have no free time. The "free time" I do have I'm doing TA'ing. Where students just want answers and no help. Honestly just made me less motivated because I'm supposed to teach next semester but seeing that no one really cares just makes me even more depressed. The stipend is also shit not even livable. I have to live at home where my mental health also takes a blow from being constantly yelled at for not helping out in the house. Even though I'm was told I can just concentrate on my studies....
False... my parents rely on me for everything from bills, translation, interpreting, accompanying them for everything from shop trips, appointments, just because etc. I even have to keep track of their bank stuff, mortgage, and more. I also tried telling them it is too much for me and they just guilt me. So I can't just stop helping them because if I do they'll just also be passive-aggressive or straight-up rude to me.
I tried explaining to those close to me that school makes me miserable but they keep saying "oh what would family think" "you're already done with one semester" "just one more year to go" "it's not that bad" and "just think of all the extra money you're going to earn" or they guilt me that they never could've gone to school so I should take every opportunity I can and make the best of it.
They keep telling everyone that I'm in grad school and it just puts more pressure to see if I'll succeed or if I'll fail. I tried going to mental health resources on campus. I was promised some help in January it's now almost April and no one has contacted me. I tried reaching out they said no because I was in a support group already for grad students. Don't get me wrong they're nice people but can't really relate because of the cultural differences and differences in circumstances and most of them are in STEM. I'm in humanities.
I feel like I'm losing my mind. I just got out of spring break hoping to feel refreshed. I don't. I hate grad school. I'm two weeks behind on all my work. I don't even feel like emailing professors because I feel like I keep making excuses and they feel like shit excuses. I'm honestly going to fail this semester in my classes. I feel awful for letting it get this bad but at the same time, I want to fail. I'm tired of the sleepless nights, the underpay, the overwork, and no reward, depression, etc.
I'm also getting certified to be a medical interpreter and I'm almost done with it. I'm enjoying it a lot and I wish I could just drop out of my masters and continue on with medical interpreting. No one in my family, parents, brother, and boyfriend or his parents like my idea...
TDLR; I'm depressed because of grad school because it's too much work, very little pay, no motivation, I've gained an unhealthy amount of weight because of it, outside pressures, gaslighting, guilt and more.
For those who went through something similar, how did you get through it? Is it really worth the extra miserable year? I need some advice...
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