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hello :)
getting straight to the point, i'd like to find "my person". i'm a go with the flow kind of person, and i don't like it when things are forced. i'd like to start off as friends and take it from there. i ask that you're close to my age, so in between 28-37. ideally i'd like to meet someone in the eastern time zone, but it's not a deal breaker. my goal in the end is to eventually meet up. i prefer to exchange pictures in the beginning. it's nice to match the user with a face, haha.
a little about myself:i'm 30, korean, libra, intj. i used to work as a chef and now i'm a manager at a bakery. i'd describe myself as quiet, extroverted introvert, artistic, independent and easygoing. once i get comfortable then my sassy and sarcastic nature starts to show. i love to laugh, and i gravitate towards people that have a (dark) sense of humor and doesn't take things too seriously. i'm a curious person, and i really enjoy getting to know somebody - their favorites, hobbies, dislikes, goals, pet peeves.
physically, i'm 5'4, chest length blonde balayage hair, dark brown eyes, average body. i like to think my legs are my best feature. i'd describe my fashion as sexy overall, both casually and dressed up. i like to take care and pamper myself.
my current favorite things are: gaming (i play on PC only atm), lifting/kickboxing, all things horror. i have other hobbies that i dabble in time to time, and other activities that i'd like to get into, but i won't bore you with that yet :).
if any of this has interested you yet, send a chat! i also prefer chat over DMs, it's easier for me. tell me either your ideal date or perfect day! hope to hear from you soon :).

36 5’7 148 Otter type. Poppers friendly. Hosting in a hotel. Can’t be too loud, but craving a nice cock sucking or throat fucking session tonight or this week. Either sit back and enjoy a chill blowjob or put my head off the side of the bed and fuck my throat until you make me gag and get your dick slobbery and wet. In either case, reward me with your cum.

Myself and 2 friends booked a holiday using package holiday provider Click and Go. Due to personal reasons, we are no longer able to go. We paid a €1 deposit less than 2 weeks ago for the booking (flights and hotel). I paid this deposit on my card. The Terms and conditions of the site state I have to pay a €50 fee plus the flights. Having not paid more than a €3 deposit, am I really liable to pay this? If so, would the company be able to come after me. I would much rather pay €300 each for the flights (or just find a way to go on the holiday) than have bailiffs at the door.

looking to go with a few friends but i’ll need to book hotels and shit in advance so does anyone know when they’ll be released

I only played a bit when the whole homecoming thing started and a friend asked me to join. I only played a bit with a Mastermind, but never really got into it.
I am thinking of coming back and I want to play really casual at my own speed without exactly speed running or getting dragged along by stronger players. I basically want to enjoy the game at my speed. (I think that was my main issue, when I dropped it. My friend knew the game quite a bit and I felt lost when he was not around)
The only thing I really need help with, is deciding on a build that would fit a new player going at it really relaxed that can still solo most of the content without much background knowledge about gear, etc. so that I can learn about it by basically experiencing it.
Can anyone point me to a build (possibly even with the character planner) that is easy to follow for someone knowing basically nothing about the game? (I am planning to play on Homecoming and it should not be a Mastermind, since i don't like the micromanagement of the pets). I know the game is also a lot about "play what you think is cool" but I'd rather have one character that can support other such experiments along the journey.

I have a coworker who drives me nuts. . When they first started, I tried inviting them to different activities and things me and other coworkers were doing, and she always said no. Most of what I know about her is what she DOES NOT like. Most of what she has to say is negative. The way she talks to people makes everything sound condescending. I am a huge people pleaser, and so I never set boundaries with her even though I am uncomfortable talking to her about non-work things. (Even then, it's iffy, but I know to be professional). I was told by two coworkers about a transphobic conversation she had with someone. The boss was informed and she didn't get any punishment. Now, she also always join in on conversations when people are talking and that is a huge pet peeve of mine. I'm find when others do it, but with her I do not. She intersects into conversations I have and I don't know what to do so I just let her in, but I hate that I now have to share personal stuff with her now too. So I really struggle with her. I had a really bad day at work and pretending like I don't hate her was just too much. I was professional about work matters, but personal stuff I was short and didn't engage. She got upset by this and tried to talk to me and I told her I didn't want to talk. Then the week went by and she continues to interject in conversations I'm in. She asks more and more about my personal life. I keep being short and uninterested in personal stuff and she keeps trying more. Finally I talk to her and tell her I'm only comfortable talking about work stuff with her. She cries and says she can't read my emotions and I'm up and down and she's on a Rollercoaster. I am chummy with everyone else except her. I tell her I only open up when I have a certain relationship with someone and that I don't feel like I have that relationship with her and I'm uncomfortable. But I said I'm sorry that she felt like that and I'm working on a realistic solution cause it's not fair to feel like I'm hot and cold and all over. (But aren't social clues a thing?) She asks if she's supposed to avoid everyone in the office then? It's unrealistic to expect her to not talk to anyone. I say no, she deserves to have whatever interactions. But I don't know what to tell her about how to know when to join and when to not join conversations. So I said I appreciated the perspective and I would think about it. (I don't think I should have to tell her stuff either though? And again, social cues?) She also mentioned that last week we were friends and now suddenly I'm cold. I never ever considered us friends!! So what do I do with that? We never have hung out or anything, just work and talking at work and again, conversations with other people being joined in. I literally never invite her to talk about personal stuff. So I tell her I want to say talking about work things because I think that is where we work best. She tells me that is my perspective and that she's comfortable and thought we did well in all aspects. I felt like she was telling me that I was wrong, but I only ever tell her stuff out of social preservation with other people. That's it. So I told her, well our overlapping area of comfort is work, so I would like to stay in the work bubble. There's so much more I don't remember because I feel like it went so fast and I wasn't prepared to answer some of her questions or statements. But, if we work together I do not have to engage in conversations other than work related items, right? And am I unrealistic to ask her to stop interjecting in conversations I'm having with other people? Is it unrealistic? I'm not responsible for her emotions. But I also know we do need to keep a certain level of professionalism. It feels like the professional and personal overlap so much I don't know where the line is. If you made it this far, thank you. I appreciate all of you critical thinking people and would love your input.

I was looking for a barn cat to possibly catch moles in my yard.. I currently have 1 barn cat and 2 indoor outdoor cats. I figured I have the resources to give another cat a home, and it may help with rodents. I live in the country and have a decent ampunt of property with various out buildings, so I have the space to house another cat. I go on some facebook group and found a lady who said she moved in to a house with about 20 cats living nearby. She contacted the local rescue and they came by and TNR'd them (Trap-neuter-release). I told her Id be interested in giving one a home. She caught one in a trap for me and we met up for the exchange. I bring the cat home and put it in the shed with food, water, etc.
Well, when I go to work, my husband brings the cat in the house because he thought it may be "cold". Hes a big softie.. Upon further inspection the cat is an intact male, and has some sort of cold. The next day, I took him to the vet for shots and an exam since he was obviously missed at the TNR party. This cat is extremely friendly, lets me hold and pet him. He purrs and kneads on me. Im worried because the cat seems lethargic, is sneezing and has boogers. The vet said its probably a herpes flair up due to stress. I feel bad for this cat because it is kinda ugly and obviously needs someone to help it. Im just worried about the other cats getting sick. What should I do? It was supposed to just be a barn cat that lives in the shed, and now I have a sick unneutered cat on my hands 😶

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Tuesday, March 21
Trek Beginner Ride Series Tuesday, Mar. 21 6:30-8:30 p.m. Trek Bicycle Fort Worth South, 5125 Granbury Rd., Fort Worth Free Explore rider-friendly areas of the city during this casual, beginners class.
Wednesday, March 22
Wine Dinner and Communal Gathering at FnG Eats: Chefs Carlos Arevalo and Bob Stephenson of FnG Eats in Keller will gather together with customers during this four-course wine pairing dinner. Comfort food favorites on the menu include iron skillet cornbread, Wagyu meatloaf, and bourbon cherry chocolate bread pudding. Wines will be served with courses one through three, and a specialty sparkling cocktail will come with dessert. Dinner is $75 per person, plus tax and gratuity, and will begin at 7 pm.
Thursday, March 23
Neutral Ground Brewing Company Happy houcrowler sale 4-9PM Mama Lama waffle pop up food truck 5:30-8:30PM Salsa dance lessons 7-8PM
Italy Wine Education Series: Piedmont Thursday, Mar. 23 6-7 p.m. Winehaus, 1628 Park Place Ave., Fort Worth $40 Taste and learn about the delicious grapes from the Piedmont wine region in Italy.
Nigerian Pop-Up Dinner with Chef Franson at Chef Point: Chef Point Café owner and chef Franson Nwaeze will share the bold flavors of West Africa during this five-course dinner. Menu highlights include suya skewers, pepper soup, goat stew with jollof rice, and fluffy fried dough balls dusted with cinnamon sugar. The dinner is $71 per person and includes tax and gratuity. Drinks are extra and suggested pairings are the Nigerian Chapman cocktail, a bold South African cab, or simply a cold beer. Dinner will start at 6:30 pm.
Friday, March 24
Art All Night on Race St: Friday from 5-10pm and Saturday from 2-10PM . Celebrate arts and culture on Race Street between Sylvania Avenue and Riverside Drive. Stroll the street to view artwork and meet the artists. Listen to live music and participate in creative classes and arts demonstrations. Panther City Artists curates an outdoor gallery. Shop boutiques, sip spirits and dine in some of the "Best" restaurants in Fort Worth. New this year -- Art Alley, an outdoor boutique marketplace for local artists and artisans. https://www.fortworth.com/event/art-all-night/33683/
Neutral Ground Brewing Company https://ngbc.beewhats-happening-1 Tammy Gomez spoken word artist 8-9PM
TX Whiskey’s Limited-Edition Baseball Bottle Release Party: Spring means baseball season is on the horizon, and Whiskey Ranch will celebrate w/a special bottle release party. Visit to buy a bottle of TX Whiskey sealed with a specialized cap made from a baseball, with complimentary bottle engraving. The distillery will also screen the baseball classic A League of Their Own and welcome former Texas Rangers pitcher Derek Holland as a special guest. The $10 admission includes your 1st cocktail. The event runs 6-9 pm.
Panther City Lacrosse Club Friday, Mar. 24 7:30 p.m. Dickies Arena, 1911 Montgomery St., Fort Worth $21-$79 Panther City will take on the San Diego Seals in their home arena.
Saturday, March 25
Martin House Brewing Company 10-Year Anniversary The Riverside brewery will celebrate a decade in business with a party. There’ll be two new taproom-exclusive beer drops, more than 30 kegs from the cellar, live music, food vendors, hula dancers, and more. New beer launches are Rum Ham, an imperial sour infused with cherries, pineapple and honey ham, and Triple Texan, a triple red tripled IPA. The $25 ticket will cover one souvenir pint glass and four pours. The family-friendly event will run from 12-6 pm.
Neutral Ground Brewing Company Jackalope Bob’s food truck 2-6PM Tammy Gomez spoken word artist 7-8PM
Cowtown Great American Cleanup Saturday, Mar. 25 8-11 a.m. Locations vary Free Join Keep Fort Worth Beautiful and thousands of volunteers for the city’s largest annual litter cleanup.
Sunday, March 26
Brisket 101 at Panther Island Brewing: Pitmaster Dayne Weaver of Dayne’s Craft Barbecue will walk participants step-by-step through his process of smoking tender, flavorful brisket. Attendees will be treated to a feast of barbecue along with three Panther Island brews and a souvenir glass. The class is $175 per person, plus tax and a service fee, and will run from 11 am-3 pm.

I'm 31 and live in Scotland. I love anything to do with animals and house plants. I have a pet cat and I've lost count of how many plants I have. I like being outdoors but equally love to be cosy at home not doing much at all. I like cooking and trying out new recipes. I really love to draw but sometimes lack motivation. Trying to get into the habit of drawing every day though!
I enjoy coming on this sub because I've met some great friends previously. I love getting to know people so if you're looking for platonic friendship send me a chat. Please include something about yourself if you do. Hope to hear from you soon! :)

Hey, very long post so sorry about that.
I'm in my final few weeks at a Russel group university. Minus a few essays I'm effectively done. I've worked a lot throughout my degree so I'm in a decent place. Got about 12.5k saved in total, realistically will get a 1st in business and management and have a job for a graduate scheme at a big 4 which starts in September. I did a placement year with them last year so know what it's like/ what to expect too.
Throughout my degree I've been working at the careers office at my uni, and they've given me 30 hours a week until mid July when I formally graduate. I can work remotely, so those 30 hours are without a commute, and roughly equate into a 20ish-k salary, and I'll do the hours over 4 days a week and the work is pretty chilled and I have a really great team. It'll be 7.5 hours a day, so I can be done by 4pm on those 4 days, so very little stress.
I have worked really hard, but I am also very fortunate to be in the position that I am in. I am now basically struggling with what to do with my "FIRE" mind versus my "I am 23 and want to live a bit mind". I am very happy doing the 30 hours over 4 days, but originally was planning on also getting a coffee shop job for an 3 extra days work a week to earn more cash. I was then hoping that this could be full time from mid July until the big 4, as I currently have a 6 week gap. However, I have an odd gut feeling not to do this. I may just be being lazy? But a part of me thinks that this is realistically the last big chunk of free time I'll have for a very long time and I'm wondering if I should just enjoy the time off and work on some other things? I also need to move to Edinburgh in those 6 weeks from London, so could enjoy the Fringe if I get there a bit early.
I wanted to go to New York with a friend for a week over the summer (probably £2k), I wanted to buy myself the massive iPad as a well done present for myself for being the first in my family to get a 1st/finishing my degree (£1100) and I also wanted to put £1000 into a bunch of new clothes/health related things. In the last month I've started going to the gym 6 days a week and eating really healthy; this costs more too but I feel so much better. I'm 6 foot 2 so tend to eat a lot which is pricey sadly. With my grad job I'll get a £7k interest free loan too, so "including" this I'll have about £20k in total saved by Christmas (or 13k without ) and this assumes that I make those above purchases. If I don't it'll be £5k more. I also wanted to spend some time learning more German (already speak a good amount) as well as some Spanish too. My mum lives quite centrally in London as well so I can be there which is awesome. I also wanted to learn to video edit and a few other things, maybe a bit of personal training to make sure I don't break my back in the gym too.
I was thinking about trying to do a secondment to New York in 3-4 years time and would love to check it out again to make sure I'd be making a good decision going there. I went in December but stayed at a friend's house so it was only £1k in total, but this time I'll be in a hotel so reckon it'll be about £2k (for my share as I'll split with my friend).
I am basically wondering if I've gone insane? I'm extremely FIRE/money minded normally and feel almost ridiculous planning all of that.. and yet I feel like at the end of the day it might not make a big difference anyway? I'll hopefully be a chartered accountant in 2-3 years on £40-50k anyway with a fairly high earning potential. Am I being stupid considering this? What would you do? And I'm not meaning for any of this to come off as arrogant and I hope it isn't. I'm extremely grateful to be where I am. But if I work 6 to 7 days a week and don't buy those things I'll end up with an extra 10k or so by Christmas, but for some reason I just really cannot be bothered to have yet another boss/back in a coffee shop (which I've done a huge amount of in the past) and think it might be best to just try and have an awesome summer before a pretty intense grad scheme. What would you do? Sorry for the huge post but this is going over and over in my mind and I'm struggling to make a decision.
TLDR: should I be financially stupid yet life my life? 23m

Our kitten play-bites a lot when we try to pet her. The only time she won't do this is when she's sleeping and we pet her. Then she'll start purring in her sleep while allowing the petting. When she's awake she's a lot more aggressive and treats our hands like a toy/prey. It has gotten a little less than a couple weeks ago.
I wanted to know if this is typical kitten behavior or if my kitten is particularly aggressive. Her tail is often in an up and curved position indicating that she's usually feeling playful. However, she will also occasionally attack our heads when we're watching tv and not paying attention to her and run away as quickly as she can. She will also attack my fiance's face when he's exercising on the floor. It is a little bit disconcerting. She will sometimes also swipe towards us in the air while we're passing by and make a silent spitting-type sound (without any spit coming out). I don't know what this means but it looks aggressive when she does it.
We show her a lot of love and affection and play with her a lot. She reciprocates the affection but it's usually when she's in a half-sleeping state. I wanted to know if we're doing something wrong. I honestly get fomo when I watch youtube videos of kittens of similar age who don't behave this way and don't get annoyed when the owner merely tries to pet them. I was walking in my neighborhood today and came across someone's cat that got loose. When I put my hand out he started nuzzling it. I thought to myself how much I wished my own cat was friendly like this...
Only constructive comments please.

Should I Hire a Private Investigator to Help to find a lost relative or catch a cheating spouse
When we think about private investigators, most of us imagine something out of a movie: The private investigator sits in his car, chomping a sandwich and smoking a cigar while he tries to catch a cheating spouse and lover in a clandestine embrace. But is this the way it is in real life? Yes and no.
How a Private Investigator Might Help
Private investigators are often hired to Help to find a lost relative or catch a cheating spouse, and they can be very helpful for a variety of reasons. However, more often than not, the evidence they collect is more circumstantial than what you see in the movies. When the case involves extramarital affairs, the couples are usually discreet enough that the film is PG-rated at best. Still, every P.I. has stories of catching people in the act and capturing some very private, revealing moments on film.
The Illusion of Privacy
Most people close the blinds unless they’re on an upper floor in a building where they believe they can’t be seen from the ground. But what if a private investigator manages to take video from an upper floor in the building across the street? If a house is in a secluded area, the spouse who has hired the private investigator can give the P.I. permission to walk onto the grounds of the house. The illusion that the lovers can’t be seen because of the seclusion of the house is just that; an illusion. The investigator can easily record their activity through the windows.
Example One: Video Recording
In one case, a male client knew his wife was having an affair, but the investigator hadn’t been able to get any real evidence. So, the P.I. suggested that the client go on a short trip. It wasn’t long after the client went out of town that a strange car appeared at the house. The P.I. called the client and asked him to come back to town, after which the client and P.I. entered the house together and retrieved the client’s gun.
They could hear the wife and her lover in a downstairs bedroom, but the door was locked. The investigator stood by with the gun visible on his hip and a video camera in his hand while the client removed the door to the room and yanked the bed covers off of his wife and lover. The investigator had rehearsed with the client what to say because it was important that he not threaten his wife’s lover in any way. Needless to say, this relationship ended in divorce, and the investigator’s film was instrumental in the husband’s case.
Example Two: Setting Your Spouse Up to Admit Guilt
In another situation, a male client was able to intercept his wife’s emails and learn that she was seeing a man who was arriving in town the next evening. She told her husband that she was going out with the girls, but when the investigator followed her, she ended up at a hotel. He observed her coming out of the hotel with her boyfriend, and while they were gone in the boyfriend’s car, the client moved his wife’s car from the parking lot. The investigator contacted the police to let them know that even if the car was reported stolen, it wasn’t actually stolen. Of course, if the wife reported the car stolen, she would have to admit that she had parked it in a hotel parking lot.
When the wife returned and frantically looked for her car, the client drove up in a van and threw all of her clothes onto the ground. He had gathered them in garbage bags just for this purpose. She was now officially caught and could no longer deny her affairs.
Example Three: Workplace Monitoring
In another case, an employer was related to the spouse of an employee who was suspected of having an affair with a coworker. The employer hired an investigator to place a hidden video camera in the office, which caught the married employee and lover having sex numerous times during the day. So, this couple was not only guilty of avoiding work, but they were committing acts of illicit sexual behavior
Most of the time, people have affairs with just one person that they’ve met at work. This is why the first question an investigator usually asks a client is: Where does your spouse work, and who works with your spouse? Investigators say it’s much less common for a married person to pick up several lovers in bars or to be caught involved in prostitution. But it certainly isn’t unprecedented.
Example Four: Following Someone
In one case, it was discovered that a man had placed a profile on a dating website, stating that he was separated. He began dating women in the area, and the investigator was surprised to find the man out with different women on different evenings. Eventually, the man picked up a woman at a bar and engaged in a sexual act with her in his car in a parking lot. The private investigator was able to shoot video of the couple through the window of the car.
Avoid Hiring Friends to Watch Your Spouse
What if someone asks a friend to follow the spouse or place a wiretap on the spouse’s telephone? This is a recipe for disaster. First of all, wiretapping is illegal a violation of both federal and state law. There are trespassing and harassment laws as well that the average person might not understand, so a friend could be criminally prosecuted for making an inadvertent mistake. Besides criminal charges, the injured parties could take the friend/amateur investigator to court for monetary damages.
Even if the friend stays within the law, a non-professional is much more likely to tip off the party who is being followed. Once the spouse knows they’re being watched, obtaining evidence is next to impossible. This mistake can be costly since private investigators generally charge by the hour. Tipping off the spouse may require considerably more time on the part of the professional investigator, resulting in added cost. One private investigator likens it to getting an estimate on a malfunctioning transmission only to go home and take the transmission apart. When you have to return the transmission to the mechanic in dozens of pieces, the estimate will be higher because it will take the mechanic longer to put the mess back together again.
When Should a Private Investigator Be Hired?
Even if there is nothing more than a suspicion of something amiss in the marriage, consulting with an hacker is a good idea. If the matter ends up in court, the evidence gathered by the P.I. is much more likely to be admissible in the case if it has been gathered with the guidance and direction of an hacker.
Some people believe they can confront their spouse and find a way to work on the marriage. While this is certainly a possibility, if the cheating party is unwilling to work on the marriage, it’s helpful to have the evidence before the confrontation takes place
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I just need to share my experiences this past year and a half... attempting VLC with BOUNDARIES so that my son can have a relationship with his grandmother, so here goes the background.
My husband and I were temporarily staying with my mom with the SOLE purpose of saving money so that we could build a family and a future together. The plan from the BEGINNING was for us to be there for a couple years and then move out and buy our first home once we reached those goals. All of this was discussed and fully "supported" by her before the move happened.
So fast forward, we got married in June of last year, but we got engaged in the winter of 2020 while we were living with my dBPD mom (yeah ....quarantine was a trip... 🙄 I digress). I also found out I was pregnant in April of 2020. Also, we began the process of house hunting and job interviews in preparation for us to relocate once the baby came and we both had jobs in our desired location.
I have now come to understand that this is a triple whammy of abandonment from her perspective. God forbid I find any success as an independent and healthy adult...
The first sign of things to come was on the day my husband and I told her we were traveling out of state to begin looking at wedding venues. It had always been our intention that the wedding would take place in the same part of the country that we were planning to plant roots and raise our own family. We both grew up there, and the majority of our friends and family are there, but the thing that REALLY grinds her gears is that my father and wonderful step-family are also in that location.
Well, when we informed her that we would be going away for the weekend to look at venues, her response was "we need to sit down and have a conversation about how this is all being paid for. I am planning on contributing financially to the wedding, so we need to have some parameters." I told her not to worry, we were just touring a couple of spots and that once we had an idea of even what KIND of wedding it would be, we could discuss finances. I knew that I was in a lose-lose situation, because if she was involved with footing any of the bills, she would without a doubt sabatoge my planning on the basis of costs and if she wasn't involved financially, it "makes her look bad" and that I am "ungrateful". I also know that nothing makes her more angry and resentful than the fact that in the years since my parents divorce, my father has become very successful, is happily remarried, and owns a gigantic beautiful house. If she wasn't willing to agree with my choices for the wedding, he WOULD. (The thing is, she is ALSO very successful and owns a home in one of the most affluent and expensive areas of the country, so even though her house is significantly smaller in size, due to its location it's worth ALMOST the same amount of money as my dad's. Plus, she lives alone and he has a wife and 4 step children... so it's obviously not really about that, now is it?)
Well, although we weren't expecting to, we ended up finding the PERFECT venue in the month we wanted, so we signed a contract to secure our date. My dad also told me not to worry about the money or my mother.
We were FLOATING on CLOUD 9. After dating for 10 years, we had finally set a wedding date! On the drive back home to her house, we called her on speakerphone to share the exciting news, hopefully (and delusionally) expecting a NORMAL response from a mother about her only daughter's wedding. As you can imagine, she completely bursted my bubble by not only not being happy FOR me or WITH me, but actually sounded pretty pissed off.
ME: "hey Mom! We set a wedding date!! pwBPD: "oh?" ...Awkward Silence... ME: "ummm, yeah.. so... we are on our way back now. I guess I will tell you more about it later." pwBPD: "yeeupp" hangs up.
FIANCÉ: "WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT?"
Okay, so fast forward a few weeks and it's time to go wedding dress shopping. I made the mistake of allotting the dress to be her financial contribution and asking my mother to come to the appointment. Once again I had delusional hopes and visions of us laughing, sipping champagne, crying tears of joy, and lots of hugging.. you know.... like the normal mothedaughters you see on "Say yes to the dress" or whatever... 🫤😔
Now, thanks to her constanting criticisms and body shaming as a preteen and adolescent, I suffer from some pretty deep, long-term body dysmorphia and was NOT looking forward to dress shopping. I was terrified, actually. But - I kept telling myself that the fear was due to my irrational feelings of disgust towards the way I look in literally ANYTHING. I was refusing to acknowledge that the fear was more likely the direct result of my subconscious knowing full well that dress shopping with THE person who created all of these issues would likely result in an uncomfortable and embarrassing situation. ...bingo... When I the one dress that caught my eye and made me excited to actually try something on, they didn't have a sample on hand that was anywhere near my size and there were none at any other American retailers, but they could have one made and shipped over. She proceeded to try and convince me to shop around some more. I stood my ground and wanted the dress made asap in order to get it with enough time to do alterations. They required 50% payment up front to even have it made to sample & try on because of the pandemic, access to materials, and everyone rescheduling their weddings for 2021 and 22.
So... she started an argument with the lady at the shop. Wanted guarantees on being able to change our mind once it came in, and finally refusing to pay the deposit. I left there completely devastated and angry. Called my dad secretly when we got home, and he said "Go back tomorrow and get the dress sent over. Even if we lose the deposit because you end up HATING it, you should get it." (I recognize the unbelievable amount of privilege that I am referring to here, and realize that many people would not have that option, but it's important for story context - I am beyond grateful for the comforts i am afforded in this lifetime and my for my dad being genuinely supportive and a providing a much needed emotional safety net in the wake of these episodes with my pwBPD).
After this incident, things rapidly escalated. My mother started getting crazier and the dissociations were ranpant. Living under he roof became a nightmare. Any way she could sabatoge, interfere with our routines, impose on our privacy, triangulate and pit us against one another, she did:
She started texting my brother (non-BPD) and using him as well.
She abruptly stopped watching our infant son for 1.5 hours a day and left us with no childcare unexpectedly, causing my fiance to have to quit his job because we werent planning to enroll him until we relocated in the coming months because it was interfereing with her work from home career (did i mention this 1.5 hour block was literally during normal lunch hours, 11:30 til 1pm, and she was fully in control of her calendar availability) - an immensely helpful gesture that SHE had offered to us, NOT one that we had asked her for.
She started verbally abusing our cat, and eventually threw things at him including a knife.
She would turn on her gigantic stereo on the weekends starting at 7am so that she could "clean" even though it was our only time off as a family with our son, making it impossible to relax at any time inside those walls... etc etc etc...
my tactic for several weeks was pretty much the silent treatment and walking on eggshells. We just needed this to last a few more months... we had several very promising job prospects being considered and as soon as we were employed, wevcould relocate, despite how insane it is to move, start a new job AND plan a wedding all at the same time. We wanted OUT, and things were so volatile it was sincerely like walking across a mine field CONSTANTLY.
Finally, just before the holidays (I believe it was a day or two before Thanksgiving) things got so out of hand. After almost 2 months VLC - which is immensely uncomfortable whilst livingunder the same roof - she pushed JUST the right buttons to throw me over the edge. I lost it. Screaming, cursing, slamming doors. When she actually hit me with a closed fist, causing me to attempt to remove myself from the situation, she followed me around the house from room to room and would not leave me alone. My infant son was asleep and I was not leaving without him, and she was physically blocking my route to his crib. My husband was also asleep and when I was finally able to get into our room and lock the door, I just sat in bed silently all night, waiting to hear her footsteps walking towards my son, even once she went to her room and turned off all the lights.
The next day we went to a hotel while she was working. We lived there for three weeks, eventually relocated and continued to plan the wedding without her input at all. I was completely NC from November until May. The ONLY reason I allowed contact in May was because the wedding was in June and if she was going to be in attendance, I needed to rip off the bandaid before I walked down the aisle.
I am going to stop now because i just totally unpacked here and it's a lot but.... omg there is something seriously painful about desperately and deeply craving the approval, pride, love, and approval from a parent who is not capable of fulfilling those things for you.
With the support of this forum, I am hopeful that navigating the near future will at least be less isolating and there will be more reminders of the validity of my choices and actions.
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This is clearly a throwaway account but I need to dump this information out without admitting it to my husband.
My husband and I have been together since 2013. And married since 2017. We have a son 3 M, that we are both crazy about. We have a house and 2 dogs. Life should be good? Right?
Back story: About 6 months my husband and I went with my family on vaca. It was like the second night in and I heard his phone ding in the middle of the night. Now I don't remember if it was a midnight pee break or the ding that woke me. But I found that he was messaging on a texting site. The messages and pictures to all these randos were extremely inappropriate and sexual. That's when it started. Now this was just the first time but not the last time he something of that nature. Its probably been at more than 5 times less than a dozen in our decade long relationship. I really don't remember. And I hated keeping track. I just know it hurt like hell each time.
Now here is where I am a shit person.... I did it back every time he did it to me. But he never found out. Why did I do that? As revenge? Keeping score to feel better without him knowing? I would flirt and sext for a small period of time then move on. It made me feel a little better.
As of a couple years ago I started struggling hard with depression and suicidal idealations. So I'm definitely going through some shit. (Not ever an excuse. I know. I know.) Just start therapy and still trying to find meds that help me. But I feel like I need to leave my husband to make me feel right again. The last time he he did anything hurtful was about 2 years ago. He begged and pleaded. And after 2 weeks I took him back. He treated amazingly for a couple months then we kinda slid back into the norm.
The norm being as a full grown man with stunted emotions, ADHD, and "the baby" of the family, he was very much in need of guidance. We have fight often about slitting chores and how he still has to maintain our vehicles (Which I am thank for). But he always makes it out that this is a daily thing to work on the cars or fix something broken in the house to get out of scrubbing the floor every week or so. So he would fly off the handle and we would get into it. As of lately we have been better at communicating but it's still hard to get over years of that.
My biggest mistakes... I went on a trip for work and ended up sleeping with my boss; Suave, witty, with a cheeky mischievous smile. I dont know a whole lot about him but from what i do know he is clearly going through some shit right now. I went to help out with work where he is helping twice. The second day I was there my boss made a joke about getting me a beer. (Which isn't the first time he has said this to me and others) so at the end of the day he told me he was locking up and I said "oh are you kicking me out?" And he thought... well you know. So he did. We drove to his hotel and I left my car there. And he took me to the bar he frequents. We are talking and laughing. I made a joke how I shouldn't have anymore because "three [beers] under the host" and he started laughing and said about shots. And Im thinking well shit. I've always thought he was cute. But I know I'm gonna chicken out and it won't happen. Well tipsy me climbed into his bed and took off my pants under the blanket and asked for sweats. He "bent down" to get the sweats out of his suit case and look at me. Aaaand I kissed him. And went, as he called it, "ham" when I started undressing him.
The sex. THE SEX. He is definitely into some kinky rough sex kinda shit. At times he kinda scared me a little. He was into handcuffs, choking, choke holds, making me choke on his dick, shoving his fingers down my throat until I vomited damn near fisting (at least that's how it felt 💁‍♀️) and slapping. It was intense. He left bruise all over me that I had for a week. And bruises on my neck from when he choked me until I blacked out. I would be a MESS eveytime after. That I would get dressed and leave while he was in the bathroom.
Over the 2 weeks I went there, we had slept together 4 times. I knew it was wrong. The last time we did.... it. The deed. He stayed with me at my hotel. We slept together. Him in nothing. And me in his shirt. He seemed mad every time I left him like he wanted to stay together. But I told him "it was bad enough I was having an affair" But that was the wrong word.. I dont have feelings for him. I would never want to be with him or leave my husband for him. But he was totally into the fact that I am married and his "little slut"
It ended when he said the assignment "couldn't be justified". And it been a month since that day. We haven't seen each other. Spoke a little about me going out there again. But thats it.
So now the cheating had stopped. I can't stop thinking about want to sleep with him again. Even though it was a mildly traumatic experience. I also feel extremely guilty about it. And a little confused because he was so aggressive but I kept going back to it. Like I kinda liked it.
I've been fickle about my relationship since he last had his moments of infidelity. But I'm not much better. And now I'm.... well much worse. And for that I kind of want to leave him. Partly because of guilt and that he deserves better but also I can't tell him why. I don't want to loose my job or have him deck my boss.
So this is my story. Answer any the questions. Am I the ASS-tronaut for this? How fucked up am I? How do I tell him without telling him who? Did I just break my best friends' heart and wreck my child's life?

My big local wedding celebration (had micro wedding aboard last fall) is a month out and I feel like I am drowning in all the last minute details I forgot to plan for and I am actively trying to drop things I just don't care about. One of these things is welcome bags for out of town guests. My mother has insisted on making them and has started to put together at most 50 bags. We don't have a hotel block anywhere (we do know about 20 family members are staying at one specific hotel) but I don't know where every out of town guest is staying. Frankly, at this point, I am not willing to contact everyone to gather their travel accommodation information.
Instead of a rehearsal dinner we are having a Welcome Party at a distillery with hosted drinks and a food truck. We actually invited everyone on our guest list to both the welcome party and wedding, regardless if they are from out of town or not, as a way to just spend more time with our guests. For reference we have 120 rsvps for the wedding and 70 rsvps for the welcome party, which is probably a 60/40 split on out-of-towners vs locals.
My thought is to have a table with labeled (with names) welcome bags at the welcome party for our out-of-towners to pick up. I think this is just way more efficient then delivering them to however many hotels. However, we don't have enough bags to give everyone at the party one, they would truly just be for the out-of-towners. Is this going to come off as super rude? I truly don't think our local friends will be off-put by this. If I were a guest, I would think that's a perfectly reasonable that the people who travel in, get a bag and I just would enjoy the drinks and food. However, there will also be local family friends and parent's friends so I need you all to tell me if I am way off here.
Also looking for other suggestions on easy ways to get people these damn welcome bags.

(21f) (20m) My boyfriend and I have almost been dating for half a year. He is the most sweetest, kindest, and caring person. We are literally best friends and never fight, if we have issues we talk them out and settle our differences. Recently for my bday he surprised me with a birthday week by taking me out for dinner with my friends, getting me a cake and giving me a present. He also surprised me with a trip to the mountains and a five star expensive hotel and paid for EVERYTHING on that entire trip (he insisted since it was my birthday he wanted to pay for everything) I told him how I haven’t celebrated my birthday in years and no one has done anything for me, not even my parents. He’s literally the kind of man anyone would dream of having, he’s perfect in every way and I can tell we are going to be together forever, and he feels the same way. I’m a student currently and don’t make a lot of money, but I really would love to do something amazing for him to show him how much I appreciate it. Any ideas of low budget or free dates? Any advice?
TLTR; boyfriend took me on an amazing trip and I’d like low budget/ free ideas for a date because I’m a broke student

Should I Hire a Private Investigator to Help to find a lost relative or catch a cheating spouse
When we think about private investigators, most of us imagine something out of a movie: The private investigator sits in his car, chomping a sandwich and smoking a cigar while he tries to catch a cheating spouse and lover in a clandestine embrace. But is this the way it is in real life? Yes and no.
How a Private Investigator Might Help
Private investigators are often hired to Help to find a lost relative or catch a cheating spouse, and they can be very helpful for a variety of reasons. However, more often than not, the evidence they collect is more circumstantial than what you see in the movies. When the case involves extramarital affairs, the couples are usually discreet enough that the film is PG-rated at best. Still, every P.I. has stories of catching people in the act and capturing some very private, revealing moments on film.
The Illusion of Privacy
Most people close the blinds unless they’re on an upper floor in a building where they believe they can’t be seen from the ground. But what if a private investigator manages to take video from an upper floor in the building across the street? If a house is in a secluded area, the spouse who has hired the private investigator can give the P.I. permission to walk onto the grounds of the house. The illusion that the lovers can’t be seen because of the seclusion of the house is just that; an illusion. The investigator can easily record their activity through the windows.
Example One: Video Recording
In one case, a male client knew his wife was having an affair, but the investigator hadn’t been able to get any real evidence. So, the P.I. suggested that the client go on a short trip. It wasn’t long after the client went out of town that a strange car appeared at the house. The P.I. called the client and asked him to come back to town, after which the client and P.I. entered the house together and retrieved the client’s gun.
They could hear the wife and her lover in a downstairs bedroom, but the door was locked. The investigator stood by with the gun visible on his hip and a video camera in his hand while the client removed the door to the room and yanked the bed covers off of his wife and lover. The investigator had rehearsed with the client what to say because it was important that he not threaten his wife’s lover in any way. Needless to say, this relationship ended in divorce, and the investigator’s film was instrumental in the husband’s case.
Example Two: Setting Your Spouse Up to Admit Guilt
In another situation, a male client was able to intercept his wife’s emails and learn that she was seeing a man who was arriving in town the next evening. She told her husband that she was going out with the girls, but when the investigator followed her, she ended up at a hotel. He observed her coming out of the hotel with her boyfriend, and while they were gone in the boyfriend’s car, the client moved his wife’s car from the parking lot. The investigator contacted the police to let them know that even if the car was reported stolen, it wasn’t actually stolen. Of course, if the wife reported the car stolen, she would have to admit that she had parked it in a hotel parking lot.
When the wife returned and frantically looked for her car, the client drove up in a van and threw all of her clothes onto the ground. He had gathered them in garbage bags just for this purpose. She was now officially caught and could no longer deny her affairs.
Example Three: Workplace Monitoring
In another case, an employer was related to the spouse of an employee who was suspected of having an affair with a coworker. The employer hired an investigator to place a hidden video camera in the office, which caught the married employee and lover having sex numerous times during the day. So, this couple was not only guilty of avoiding work, but they were committing acts of illicit sexual behavior
Most of the time, people have affairs with just one person that they’ve met at work. This is why the first question an investigator usually asks a client is: Where does your spouse work, and who works with your spouse? Investigators say it’s much less common for a married person to pick up several lovers in bars or to be caught involved in prostitution. But it certainly isn’t unprecedented.
Example Four: Following Someone
In one case, it was discovered that a man had placed a profile on a dating website, stating that he was separated. He began dating women in the area, and the investigator was surprised to find the man out with different women on different evenings. Eventually, the man picked up a woman at a bar and engaged in a sexual act with her in his car in a parking lot. The private investigator was able to shoot video of the couple through the window of the car.
Avoid Hiring Friends to Watch Your Spouse
What if someone asks a friend to follow the spouse or place a wiretap on the spouse’s telephone? This is a recipe for disaster. First of all, wiretapping is illegal a violation of both federal and state law. There are trespassing and harassment laws as well that the average person might not understand, so a friend could be criminally prosecuted for making an inadvertent mistake. Besides criminal charges, the injured parties could take the friend/amateur investigator to court for monetary damages.
Even if the friend stays within the law, a non-professional is much more likely to tip off the party who is being followed. Once the spouse knows they’re being watched, obtaining evidence is next to impossible. This mistake can be costly since private investigators generally charge by the hour. Tipping off the spouse may require considerably more time on the part of the professional investigator, resulting in added cost. One private investigator likens it to getting an estimate on a malfunctioning transmission only to go home and take the transmission apart. When you have to return the transmission to the mechanic in dozens of pieces, the estimate will be higher because it will take the mechanic longer to put the mess back together again.
When Should a Private Investigator Be Hired?
Even if there is nothing more than a suspicion of something amiss in the marriage, consulting with an hacker is a good idea. If the matter ends up in court, the evidence gathered by the P.I. is much more likely to be admissible in the case if it has been gathered with the guidance and direction of an hacker.
Some people believe they can confront their spouse and find a way to work on the marriage. While this is certainly a possibility, if the cheating party is unwilling to work on the marriage, it’s helpful to have the evidence before the confrontation takes place
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This is a long rant
I (F18, 6ft tall, unattractive, overweight) have been dealing with depression and anxiety all my life. Even though Im not diagnosed whatsoever Im pretty sure I have several mental illnesses including something neurodivergent like ADHD or Autism because my parents have always been overwhelmed by my behaviours or emotions. My parents or rather my mother are horrible people, they mentally and physically traumatized me bascially from the get-go. For example: My father broke my teeth while pushing me into a steel bedframe out of anger and my mother told me to die when I was 11 without reason. My mother always saw me as an extension of her reputation and public image and always yelled at me for my abnormal/childish behaviour. Ive also been bullied for like forever, even before Kindergarten I was the weird kid and it stayed like that till I graduated. I have never had any friends in my entire life until 7 years ago when I met my best friend, and she is kinda a red flag and toxic ngl, and about 3 years ago my other good friend and they are all I have. Ive been thinking about unaliving for 6 years now but my friends, my pets and the fear of pain I have keep me from it. I have no motivation to do anything in life and I have an extreme apathy and hatred for people, which is ironic because Im currently working as a Caretaker for the disabled (40h workweek and 515€ a month) because I was forced into it by my parents and my collegues told me I am not fit for this job. I am still living with my parents and they want to force me in another job immediately after my contract for this one ends. I dont want to do anything and I dont care if you see me as spoiled because of that I just want to make a lot of money either with an easy job or without working at all. My dream „job“ of course would be Sugar Baby but with my looks and personality that is not an option. Id like to get therapy and diagnosis but I dont have the time nor the money and there is none in my area (a village in a rural, german area). I am really desperate at this point so if any of you have good advice Id appreciate it. Pls refrain from mean comments, I have no self-esteem already.

I’ll go first:
Don’t invite me to your party while I’m in a game and then go start a game of your own and expect me to be waiting in the lobby like a lost puppy till you get back!