I'm going to open this conversation based on the subject of "Sex Worker" It's been a long time since I've actually taken the time to think about it as it feels so much like a part of my past and with time flying by, well I'm not ashamed of it, frankly apart of me misses the meeting of special "friends". Why I decided to reflect on this area of my life, was after I read this article Jesse Sage wrote. It got me thinking about how much courage Jesse had to be so open with her kids, but it's a good thing because it shows your kids your not just mom dealing with all the family stuff and busting your ass working to keep the family functioning, you're a human being first, a woman second and mom third, but sometimes all those roles may come in a different order, depending on your day. It's hard to say if I would have considered this area of work if I never had a family myself. Possibly I enjoyed the company of a hanging man who can make me laugh.
However, I was an adult when I made these choices on my own. I've been a rebel all my life, but having kids hurts a young girl and when I speak to young women about family, my first piece of advice is "Please don't have kids", please live your DREAMS first.
I'm not against mothers being sex - workers but frankly I think it's best not to go into this type of work if you have family because of the stigma and judgment. Regardless of what you do to support the family you can't win as a parent because you still have to delegate everything on your own and some kids understand that and others don't. My entire peeve of having a family is advocating for women of all ages to please NOT have kids. You have no idea how much it takes from you and alters every aspect of your life and in the end, whether you are a single mom or dad you will fail because there are too many expectations kids have.
It's not because you're a sex -worker, it's because kids need parents to be present all the time, all day long and it's not possible if you have to work. Kids expect parents to be supportive and have answers to life, the problem with that is we don't. Parents are trying to figure it all out as they walk through life themselves. There are no manuals or instructions for raising kids.
The mistake parents make is we expect kids to automatically know to do the right thing as they grow without instructions. It doesn't work like that kids need guidance and constant admiration and love. I was young having kids and getting married which was a bigger mistake because society tells young girls it's our responsibility. It's fucked up really and to place that pressure on a young person instead of encouraging her to live her dreams, go to school and figure out who you are, it's wrong.
When I started as a sex worker it was many decades ago and the internet was public but workers were barely discovering the use of the net to advertise and when they did it took off like a rocket. I never worked the streets nor would I that is far too dangerous, but I did try the brothels in Nevada once to see what it was like. A HUGE WASTE OF TIME! Big mistake, it's not worth it at all, women these days have too many options for running their own website with safeguards on how to accept payment knowing you're going to have a decent quality client. If a man really wants to see you, he will follow your protocol. Otherwise don't bother.
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Sex Workers are Human Too

• Never do drugs or drink with clients whether, in a hotel or public space, you must be in control at all times.
• Make sure they provide 50% or any percentage of a deposit. COPS will NEVER send MONEY!
• Never rely on stupid sites like Preferred 411 or Thee Erotic Review. Read to be informed, but don't participate.
• Have your own website and control your own business. I can create a site for you, (I will cover this later).
• Never do outcall, always in-call, it's too easy to get busted, hurt, or killed. You set and control the environment.
• Never rely on other workers to confirm clients, other people are not reliable and you won't know if they have been hijacked.
• Present yourself like a classy woman, not a "cheap whore", we're all adults and you want to attract grade a man.
• Never negotiate your standards or money, if a loser has to ask, then he can't afford you or your time, move on.
• Never go back n forth with emails or phone calls, these idiots understand, he could be law enforcement or a loser!
• Never fall for their bullshit stories, everyone has problems, save that for when you're actually on the clock.
• Law Enforcement is a dead giveaway, they are so stupid, and most importantly they will NEVER show you a driver's License.
• On COPS CDL it is written, stamped in blood "law enforcement" on the back from DMV. I know this for a fact.
• COPS drives various cars, broken down jalopies, vans with fake graffiti, and sports cars that say, "California Exempt".
• Cops have stupid behavior, thinking they're in disguise, sitting in cars watching, jumping up and down laughing in a fake manner with their partner, and trying to be a distraction, when in fact, they draw attention in the most obvious way.
• Cops will sit in a hotel lobby in groups also behaving in a very stupid manner, pay attention to your environment.
• They usually will have a set up on the first floor, which easier to bust in and out, unless they know you have been busted before, they might change it to the 3rd floor. (I will share that story later). Either way, if you call the hotel, you can hear...
• All the static and click, click, click on the phone, means they are wiretapping the phone line to listen to you.
• If you choose to give a number on your site use it as a voicemail only never speak to this person on the phone, use email only.
• Law Enforcement when talking on the phone, will ask a million questions or say something stupid like, "You sound so professional" or talk really fast, which is a dead giveaway, hang up, and keep track of all calls and emails.
• Law Enforcement has more sophisticated technology, don't think they don't, keep up with what they're doing.
• Don't be a fool pay attention to everyone you come into contact with to avoid being hurt or trapped.
• Join forums and read them carefully COPS sometimes get in and disguise themselves as Escorts to gain Information.
• Never service Law Enforcement many have gone to workers, they can turn on you easily, and they have NOTHING to lose!
• Cops are on Dating sites, Adult Friend Finder seeking workers or women they want to cheat with, be aware they hide at times.
• Never tell your friends or family what you do they won't understand, or if they do they will only use and exploit you.
• Expect to be seen if you're on the internet by friends family members or co-workers from your regular job if you have one.